I mean that's the nail on the head right there is that the cultural expectations, the personal expectations depending on how you grew up and what you envisioned for yourself as a mom, what you envision for yourself as a professional, as a lawyer, those things can sometimes be at odds with each other and there is an
enormous amount of guilt
around those expectations and even sometimes I've heard women in my group talk about they sometimes get negative messages from their spouse directly or from other family members or other friends who are moms who maybe are on a different path this
time and sometimes I call it death by a thousand paper cuts.