Among the many things the movie made me think about was this: perhaps if we want
to have long - lasting love we have
to keep finding new things
to love about each other instead of just thinking of our beloved as static — he's this, she's that — which, as Clementine and Joel discover, only
leads to frustration, disappointment and,
eventually,
rejection.
Eventually that cycle can
lead us
to absorb the basic fears of abandonment and
rejection, the opposite of the sure connection we so badly need.That's where Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy can be a great help.