The insight which is brought to the experiences of abandonment and loss will contribute not only to the healing of adoptees, adoptive families, and birth parents, but will bring understanding and encouragement to anyone who has
ever felt abandoned.
God accepts whatever we bring to the God / person relationship — our physical and spiritual condition, personality, connection to reality, our participation in relationships, talents, inabilities, cognition, knowledge, ignorance, life journey, spiritual journey, walk about, wandering, seeking, questioning, questing, acceptance of God, rejection of God — and our emotional and mental status: hate / love, anger / peace, sadness / happiness, hurt / health,
feeling lost and
abandoned /
feeling found and included, agitation / serenity, apathy / passion, confusion / clarity, fractures / wholeness — all of this, all of whoever we are and have
ever been and every action committed or
ever contemplated and every thought we
ever explored or entertained or that flitted through our mind — all of this, we bring to the God / person relationship and God accepts the totality of who we are and every component that comprises who we are — as a gift.
How can we ensure that she does not
feel abandoned or replaced, that we continue to meet all of her needs, and that our bond with her stays as strong as
ever, while also ensuring that she creates a strong bond with her new sibling?
«I am interested to get a «
feeling» of representation without
ever abandoning abstraction, like an image that is almost there but not describable.