Not exact matches
More than ten years ago, my husband laid out a theory of
relationships for me that centered
around one theme:
expectations.
The Imaginary Architecture of Love refers to the ways in which peoples»
expectations and intentions build structures
around relationships that inevitably transform over time.
Of these topics, the most important factors of compatibility are their values
around what a committed
relationship looks like, their
expectations for their roles in the
relationship, and what it means to be a good person.
The process of making amends and what must be in place for the process to effectively unfold [24:35] How does shame affect our ability to feel and express remorse, and why doing inner work
around our shame is essential preparatory work for rebuilding
relationships [27:40] Healing
relationships by working with our 4 R's: resentments, respects, regrets, requests [30:33] The willingness to be vulnerable and why emotional responsiveness plays an essential role [31:16] How masculine and feminine typologies,
expectations, and gender norms affect our expressions of vulnerability, and how to unpack what lies beneath [34:28] Differences in communication styles between the masculine and feminine poles of a
relationship, and how communication styles affect not only our primary
relationships, but our familiar
relationships and friendships, too.
From children's perspective, it is not necessary for the adults to be in a marital
relationship as long as they can cooperate
around providing the financial resources for the family, and
around protecting and emotionally supportingthe children, while teaching their values and
expectations about how to behave and succeed in the larger culture.
Turn
Around your Unrealistic
Expectations: Effective Goal Setting — Holding on to unrealistic expectations can cause a relationship to be unsatisfying and to even
Expectations: Effective Goal Setting — Holding on to unrealistic
expectations can cause a relationship to be unsatisfying and to even
expectations can cause a
relationship to be unsatisfying and to eventually fail.
When someone's needs aren't being met, redemption is being sought elsewhere and stereotypical
relationship expectations come into play, couples may resort to behavior that exiles their partner, like creating unnecessary conflict, alienating him or her from family and friends or tiptoeing
around the issues.
If you are not ready to talk brass tacks in your
relationship, try to enjoy throwing
around your thoughts on marriage and your
expectations in a future spouse.