Johnson uses the therapist as a «secure base» and encourages them to build a secure container in which the anxiously or avoidantly attached partner can take the risk of
expressing vulnerable feelings and needs.
When children can
express their vulnerable feelings to a parent and see over time that they can have independent relationships with both parents, they can recover and grow through this experience.
The better question to ask when it comes to boys (and girls too), is whether they have a «soft heart» and can
express their vulnerable feelings?
«Once men know it's safe to
express vulnerable feelings to their partner, they come to appreciate and value it just as much as their wives,» says Dr. Bridges.
Not exact matches
True intimacy happens when a couple
feels safe to exchange personal truths and
express vulnerable thoughts or
feelings.
Nancy facilitates couples to get in touch with what underlies their reactions, so that
vulnerable feelings can be
expressed in a way that gets an attuned response from their partner.
Just like in the movie, the key to breaking the cycle is to become
vulnerable, to
express our
feelings of sadness or fear.
Men in our society are expected not to
express their
feelings but to deal with issues in a rational or logical way and are taught that being
vulnerable is a bad thing.
The process of making amends and what must be in place for the process to effectively unfold [24:35] How does shame affect our ability to
feel and
express remorse, and why doing inner work around our shame is essential preparatory work for rebuilding relationships [27:40] Healing relationships by working with our 4 R's: resentments, respects, regrets, requests [30:33] The willingness to be
vulnerable and why emotional responsiveness plays an essential role [31:16] How masculine and feminine typologies, expectations, and gender norms affect our expressions of vulnerability, and how to unpack what lies beneath [34:28] Differences in communication styles between the masculine and feminine poles of a relationship, and how communication styles affect not only our primary relationships, but our familiar relationships and friendships, too.
Primary emotions make us
feel vulnerable and they're usually harder to
express to another person — they include fear, hurt, shame, sadness, disappointment.
My emphasis is to facilitate a therapeutic relationship where
vulnerable feelings can be safely
expressed.
Nancy facilitates couples to get in touch with what underlies their reactions, so that
vulnerable feelings can be
expressed in a way that gets an attuned response from their partner.
It's about the
vulnerable feelings beneath, and the hurtful process involved in defending against
expressing them.
MEASURABLE: client's report of
feeling safe, client's ability to disclose how he experiences the therapeutic process and his ability to collaborate on treatment goals as evidenced by his participation during the sessions, client giving three examples of the problem areas, client committed to therapy as evidenced by attending weekly for 3 weeks,
express vulnerable moments in past 3 weeks, client making eye contact 4 times a session, clients report they are
feeling safe and are able to trust.
One of the reasons it's so hard to communicate your
feelings of anger and bitterness in a moment when your spouse is doing something that's really bugging you is that
expressing means being
vulnerable.
But it isn't easy for us humans to access these more
vulnerable feelings and courageously
express them and be open to what happens.
Expressing the more
vulnerable feelings will invite your partner to connect with you.
When a conversation about sharing and how to
express ones love occurs that come with being
vulnerable then both people in the relationship
feels loved through their connection.
We call these moments of open, tender sharing «softenings,» because we saw partners not only begin to
express their more
vulnerable feelings but also be more loving (softer) in their responses to their partners.
What if we
expressed some of our softer and
vulnerable emotions — the ones that we sometimes
feel safer
expressing through text messages — directly with our partners or kids?
Withhold love whenever they
express any emotion — especially
vulnerable feelings.