New mothers often feel like
failures at breastfeeding and give up shortly after starting.
I just thought I was
a failure at breastfeeding and had droopy breasts!
I was searching for coping mechanisms on how to overcome
my failure at breastfeeding.
Not exact matches
It was such a hard time emotionally, I felt like a
failure bc I wanted so badly to exclusively
breastfeed, but glad we've had this
at the end of the day.
From the times I struggled
breastfeeding to the times I couldn't get him to stop crying to the times I honestly didn't want to change a single diaper again for the remainder of my life, having a baby makes you look
at your abilities (and your
failures) in a way you probably never have before.
At only 18 months old Lucy is waiting on a kidney transplant When Lucy was nearly 11 months old, she was diagnosed with kidney
failure, and her mum Amanda had to stop
breastfeeding cold turkey.
For example, if your mother - in - law or best friend really wanted to
breastfeed but didn't succeed, her disappointment or feelings of
failure might end up being directed
at you in the form of critical or discouraging comments.
There are feelings of
failure when you wonder why you couldn't just push through and try a bit harder
at breastfeeding the «real way».
The idea that
breastfeeding is best is the same as telling parents that moving to a farm and growing all your own food yourself is best and your a
failure if you shop
at the supermarket.
I tried everything in my power to
breastfeed and build my milk - supply, even pumping until my nipples turned purple, but it only left me emotional and distraught
at the constant
failure, and my baby preferred the supplimental formula bc it was easier on her stomach.
And because they insist on ignoring the experiences of women, their well meaning attempts
at encouraging
breastfeeding are almost complete
failures.
«Women introduce formula or stop
breastfeeding in an attempt to improve the situation, and this can lead to feelings of
failure and guilt,» says Pat Hoddinott, Ph.D., lead author of the study and chairwoman of primary care
at the School of Nursing, Midwifery and Health
at the University of Stirling in Scotland.
I still have issues with having to switch to all formula (
at 5 months when I had to start taking medication for severe ppd... which, in large part, was due to my
breastfeeding failure).
By preparing yourself for a potential struggle, you may avoid feelings of disappointment and
failure if you have to work
at breastfeeding.
i did have some crazy woman show up
at my door one day from a
breastfeeding advocay group telling me i was a
failure and i gave up too soon and my child should be removed from my care!!!! people have NO idea what hell i went thru for 8 weeks.
A lot of your feelings of grief about this have to do with pressure we put on ourselves, and the HUGE SOCIETAL PRESSURE that's laid
at our feet to
breastfeed... and if you «fail» you're a «
failure» as a mother in general for not doing what is «best.»
An infant must learn to attach and suckle properly
at the breast during the first few days of life to successfully establish
breastfeeding.1,, 2 Early oral experiences that require sucking mechanics different from those required for
breastfeeding are believed to contribute to the development of improper latch and subsequent
breastfeeding failure — a problem described as nipple confusion.2 — 4 The avoidance of pacifiers was included as 1 of 10 steps for successful
breastfeeding in the 1990 Innocenti Declaration on maternity services and
breastfeeding, and many experts recommend that mothers who are
breastfeeding avoid exposing their infants to artificial suckling experiences including use of pacifiers.5 — 7
I feel that if you are uncomfortable with
breastfeeding, that «bonding time» that should help build trust, will lead instead to frustration, resentment, and,
at least in my experience, a feeling of
failure; formula feeding both of my sons still gave me the wonderful experience of nurturing, caring for, and bonding.
Conversely, there is no association between women who return to work part - time and
failure to reach the
breastfeeding goal of
at least three months.