I have long thought that Niebuhr's book, for all its individual insights, was based on
a false setting of the question.
When we judge or shame a mother for expressing her symptoms, it sets up
a false set of expectations of when she should be over these feelings, and it makes her feel abnormal for having these symptoms.
To ocean (what a nice handle:) IMHO you are drawing
a false set of analogies.
Since then, investigators have turned up even more alarming stuff: For instance, the New York Times reveals that Massey kept two separate sets of books — one
false set to deliberately deceive safety inspectors.
When we judge or shame a mother for expressing her symptoms, it sets up
a false set of expectations of when she should be over these feelings, and it makes her feel abnormal for having these symptoms.