But I struggle with
fear based parenting too & knowing how to discipline my independent almost 3 yr old son without it being punishment.
You should all be ashamed for your attempt at parenting is just showing you've hit a road block and decided to attempt
fear based parenting.
I tend to refer to this kind of parenting as
fear based parenting - children learn good behavior because they are fearful of the consequences.
Not exact matches
Correcting behavior without condemning feeling, listening to and accepting
fears and worries without taking charge in an overprotective way, allowing free rein to the developing need for freedom while at the same time holding fast to the limits appropriate to his age — these are the continuing
bases of
parent - child intimacy.
Fear, Disconnect and Shame,» an interview with Daniela Sieff, PhD — explores the ingredients to developing a shame -
based view of oneself and what is all involved in healing, which certainly underlines the importance of prevention through
parenting
- Evidence -
based mental health treatment for children and adolescents: effectivechildtherapy.com - Project Enlightenment: projectenlightenment.wcpss.net - The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and
Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D. - Ross W. Green's website: livesinthebalance.org - Don't Panic Third Edition: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks by Reid Wilson, Ph.D. - Freeing Your Child from Anxiety: Practical Solutions to Overcome Your Child's
Fears, Worries, and Phobias by Tamar Chansky, Ph.D. - Help for Worried Kids: How Your Child Can Conquer Anxiety and
Fear by Cynthia G. Last, Ph.D..
Parenting is difficult with a partner, so the
fear of doing it without them (on a full - time
basis) can be stressful.
A straightforward, elegantly written, concise, and well - organized 215 pages, Back in the Game stands out in a crowded field, not just as a primer on concussions for a
parent, coach, or athletes, but for its incisive and often pointed criticism of the way our national conversation about concussions and the long - term effects of playing contact and collision sports has been shaped - some would say warped - by a media that too often eschews fact -
based reporting in favor of sensationalism and
fear - mongering.
Iben Sandahl, a licensed narrative psychotherapist, MPF, and author of the acclaimed
parenting book, The Danish Way, told Mother magazine that children who are raised by
parents who do not employ an ultimatum -
based system of discipline are much more inclined to both value and exhibit respect as opposed to
fear or apathy.
I was just telling a friend that all my
parenting choices in the last 2 years have been
based on
fear -
fear of what all my ubercrunchy friends will think, of being flamed, you name it.
Worry takes us out of the present and makes us practice
fear -
based parenting.
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Positive discipline is a
parenting approach that is
based on connection and trust, rather than on longing and
fear.
She supports
parents in moving from a traditional
fear -
based model to a joy -
based one focusing on relationship and healthy attachment.
Children need abundant nurturing and an authentic, open bond with their
parents based in trust rather than in
fear.
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The model of
parenting most of us grew up with was authoritarian
parenting, which is
based on
fear.
Authoritarian
parenting is
based on the child's
fear of losing the
parent's love.
Connection
parenting is
based on love instead of
fear.
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Some of us may have grown up with permissive
parenting, which is also
based on
fear.
Permissive
parenting is
based on the
parent's
fear of losing the child's love.
Recognizing these as
fear -
based statements can reaffirm the AP
parent's stance.
ADHD and spirited children are sensitive to tension produced by
parents» competitiveness and the
fear based motivation inhibits them.
Carissa Robinson compares
Fear -
Based and Faith -
Based Parenting.
Before I can fully move forth with my assertion that Gary Ezzo's word choice and word pictures in Babywise cater to and perpetuate a climate and culture of
fear -
based parenting, I'm going to need to back up a bit.
Parenting is my passion and my life's work has become sharing with other
parents how they can shift their controlling
fear based relationships with their children to a loving enjoyable reality.
The truth is
fear sells, and the
parenting information and analysis we're taking in often comes wrapped in misinformation and
fear -
based messaging like:
The
parent is using
fear -
based discipline in each scenario, which might work the first few times, but eventually kids start to see through it.
We urge
parents to begin their vaccine research early and to not
base their decisions on the
fear tactics that are often employed by both the pro-vaccine and anti-vaccine advocates.
Fear -
based parenting causes us to make decisions that assuage our or others»
fears, rather than considering credible evidence of risks and benefits.
Some of these same high school kids tell me they
fear that scoring a Bon a quiz may cause their
parents to divorce or drive their mothers into depression, partly
based on some sense that adult pride and security rest on their children's accomplishment.
Instead of creating a
parent / child relationship
based on
fear and mistrust — as spanking often does — it is healthier and more effective in the long run to create a relationship
based on trust and respect.
A big part of the
parent opposed is
fear of using cloth diapers
based on misconceptions.
I wish I could tell you that my journey from
fear -
based to love -
based parenting was an easy straight shot, but that wouldn't be the truth.
As we practice becoming more mindful throughout our days, we naturally become less inclined to the overreaction and
fear -
based choices that result in helicopter
parenting.
The final plan is
based largely on a proposal aired in February by John A. Murphy, the superintendent of schools, but contains several revisions designed to ease the
fears of some black
parents and activists that the plan would...
San Antonio
parent Kerri Smith sent a two - page letter to every Texas official overseeing charters, explaining, «Had my children not been given the opportunity to attend a
BASIS school, I truly
fear that they would have continued to go through traditional public school in the middle of the pack, not reaching their full potential and not being fully prepared to go off to college one day.»
SB257 sponsor Sen. Howard Stephenson, R - Draper, said his idea was to ease some Utah
parents»
fears about the state's new academic standards, which are
based on Common Core State Standards.
Dr. Tim Kimmel contends that too much of today's Christian
parenting is
based upon
fear and, as a result, many
parents build walls of holy checklists around their children to keep them safe.
Tsabary explains that
parents are reactive — whether that manifests itself in yelling, overindulging or hovering — because our
parenting instincts are
based on
fear.
Fear -
based parenting is big business.
I wish I could tell you that my journey from
fear -
based to love -
based parenting was an easy straight shot, but that wouldn't be the truth.
Fear -
based parenting only works as long as it can be physically or emotionally enforced, but love is a more effective motivator over time.
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Gottman called EFT a «
fear»
based model, until the evidence -
base started to show spontaneous recovery in previously surface behavioral issues like
parenting, money, in - law conflict and even trauma and depressive symptomatology.
I was using
fear -
based parenting before and now transitioning into love -
based parenting.
Fear, Disconnect and Shame,» an interview with Daniela Sieff, PhD — explores the ingredients to developing a shame -
based view of oneself and what is all involved in healing, which certainly underlines the importance of prevention through
parenting
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