Not exact matches
Fears of intimacy and commitment, thought to be
results of divorce, are in fact phenomena often experienced by children who grew up in disturbed intact families.
I do individual and group work with men dealing with an
intimacy disorder which can
result in sexual addiction behaviors (porn, compulsive masturbation, affairs, prostitutes etc) as a way to avoid relational pain —
fear of being hurt by anyone who knows them; this includes
fear of relational vulnerability,
fear of being known,
fear of being rejected and
fear of being abandoned.
Sexual anorexia is manifested as a
result of trauma and is seen when one may demonstrate behaviors related to
fear of intimacy or an underlying social phobia.
At that moment, realize that all
of the bullshit that has led you to marriage counseling in the first place might be the
result of your own
fear of vulnerability, lack
of control, and emotional
intimacy — and that life is far too short to muddy it up with the muck
of petty fighting that no one will remember a year or even a week from today.