However, if we realize that we are both prone to misinterpret each other due to our
strong aversion to
pain, and if we can acknowledge that we need to help each other to approach the
fear of pain and work together to combat it as a mutual enemy
of the relationship, then there is hope.
Entitled, «Soothing the Threatened Brain: Leveraging Contact Comfort with Emotionally Focused Therapy» the study is
strong evidence
of how our mammalian brain is wired to use loving contact to manage the
fears and
pains of daily life.