Yet again its clear from history that humans have risen above narrow and self defeating
fears of other people.
Gentle parenting, cry it out, baby led weaning, shop bought puree, designer baby clothes, a wardrobe full of hand me downs: however you decide to bring up your child, don't let
the fear of other people judging you stop you doing things the way you want to.
It's a thriller for people whose irrational anxiety about technology is only matched by their overriding
fear of other people.
Not exact matches
People pleasing is deeply rooted in a
fear of rejection, failure and disappointing
others, according to therapist Sherry Pagoto.
People pleasing comes from a
fear of rejection, failure or disappointing
others, so it's time to examine where those
fears come from and find a professional guide — a licensed therapist, social worker or psychologist who is knowledgeable in this area
of personal development.
Of course, fear isn't rational — you don't see people giving toaster ovens the side - eye, and many other things that people are afraid of, including public speaking and spiders, are unlikely to harm you eithe
Of course,
fear isn't rational — you don't see
people giving toaster ovens the side - eye, and many
other things that
people are afraid
of, including public speaking and spiders, are unlikely to harm you eithe
of, including public speaking and spiders, are unlikely to harm you either.
Most
people can likely identify the typical symptoms
of anxiety: nervousness,
fear, rapid heartbeat, insomnia, and sweating among
others.
According to Lowbridge that same
fear of outshining
others translates to finances, with many
people fearing that
others won't like them if they earn more money.
The
fear there is that
people might buy bitcoin and
other virtual coins on credit, then be unable to pay the banks back due to depreciation in the value
of the cryptocurrencies.
If you have an idea that you know is a bit kooky, but you think
others might see it for the magic it is, don't let
fear of what
other people say hold you back.
(Some
people worried that water fluoridation would lead to widespread poisoning;
others feared it for a different reason: that it was the vanguard
of «socialized medicine» and an assault on individual medical privacy.)
As the details
of this plan become known, and as the political response builds from
people who
fear their taxes will be raised, and as they build a coalition with special interests who would lose out from
other aspects
of the proposal (like investors who do not like the proposed limitation on the deduction
of business - interest expenses), this plan will become an enormous liability.
Moreover, teams avoid facing conflict when there's a lack
of trust between members, and that lack
of trust stems from one
of two (or both)
fears — how the
other person will respond to the conflict and what the
other person will think
of them during or after the conflict.
Dig deeper, and you'll often find motives that are far messier — selfishness, revenge,
fear of failure, a need to prove oneself to a seemingly unloving parent and many
other things that most
people would be reluctant to admit, if they were even aware
of those motives in the first place.
In such an environment,
people tend to hide their mistakes and those
of others out
of fear that pointing them out will lead to their own mistakes being exposed.
But it takes religion to make
people have irrational
fears and hate for
other groups
of people when they probably wouldn't have those feelings in the first place.
I view religion at its core as a leveraging
of fear (related to the supernatural) in order to get
other people to do certain things.
on the
other hand there have been time when a
person's soul was wrenched with
fear because
of lack
of assurance
of eternity.
I am for the elimination
of hate,
fear and control, religion is just the catalyst that
people use to hate,
fear and control, getting rid
of religion won't solve the problem, its like putting a band aid on a severe cut, its temporary, and it just hits the surface, instead we need to go deeper than that to the root cause, I know lots
of religious
people who don't hate,
fear or control, there are also many beliefs such as paganism, Buddism, Taoism, which doesn't use hate
fear, and self righteousness to condemn
others, I think if maybe more
of the most major religions followed there teachings then we wouldn't have as much problems as we do.
In my opinion, and the opinion
of many
others, religion is nothing more than a tool, created by mankind (not suggested by god) thousands
of years ago to do nothing more than control
people through force and
fear.
And their are many
people overseeing
other communities that
fear being discovered and have to conceal whole parts
of their personalities, preferences or thoughts.
Sadly, for many
of us «the
other» is not a
person with a journey, dreams, hopes and
fears.
But there is a tremendous amount
of fear of athiest, far more than
of people of other faiths.
And yet over the course
of writing my blog, I have found that vast numbers
of people struggle with
fear, guilt, shame, and all sorts
of terrible thoughts about God and
others, and as I have learned more, I find that many
of these feelings come from a faulty view
of God.
My opinion is atheists feel no guilt for say ripping off
other people, or even killing them, since they have no
fears of repercussions.
In
other words, just because you have all these debts does not give you the right to twist and manipulate scripture and cause
people to give under
fear of being cursed by God to meet your needs.
If a
person needs the
fear of eternal punishment by a make believe god to deter them from killing, stealing or any
other sort
of malevolence, they are not decent human beings to begin with.
I see even here that
people of hate will take any forum possible to spread their
fear and hate toward
others.
Some
people due to lack
of maturity could become apathetic and / or grow to be fearful
of people that are mentally challenged... So many doctors, scholars and plain regular folks have discarded the idea linking demonic possession (spiritual) to mental illness (scientific) for
fear that some
people may become dismissive and even abusive toward
others within our society.
As a recovering christian, 5 years clean and open minded, the truth definitely did set me free - it set me free
of the horrors and
fear that come with christianity; it allowed me to look at things from all sides (putting the shoe on the
other foot so to speak); it allowed me to love more freely and be a better
person.
that minimizes the historical suffering
of women and minority groups in this country, 2) an overwrought persecution complex that confuses sharing civil rights with
others with being persecuted by them, and 3) a persistent
fear of the perceived «
other» — Muslims, LGBT
people, immigrants, refugees, etc. — that results in culture wars meant to «take back» the public square.
Many
people experiencing a crisis are tempted to isolate themselves from
others, because
of loneliness, or the mistaken notion that stoic self - sufficiency is a virtue, or because they
fear they will be a burden to
others.
I've learned that the criticisms that hurt me the most are not the ones that have no relation to reality, but the ones that, deep down, I desperately
fear are true («you don't have any fruit in your life,» «you rebel for the sake
of rebelling,» «you don't care if you destroy
other people's faith»).
Superego religion, which aims at controlling
people (oneself and
others) through guilt and
fear of punishment, helps to create the paralyzing perfectionism
of the ideal image.
Trouble and weeping and
fear and ruin come when the
people forget the promises
of God that bind us inextricably to each
other — the hungry to the overfed, the city to the suburb, the innocent to the cynical, the triumphant to the brokenhearted.
A nation which operated by relational power would be one which actively attempted to be sensitive to the feelings
of persons in
other nations, to the needs,
fears, hopes, angers, and goals
of other nations (as well as
of its own citizens), and which allowed those to influence its policies.
Some
people seem to want to do very little, for
fear of antagonising Muslim extremists, while
others talk
of a «war on terror» as a way
of eliminating these same extremists.
The minister's legitimate
fear of «playing God» in the lives
of other people should not prevent him from sharing his knowledge when appropriate.
Only when
people take courage to face
fear, heal from past hurts, as as considerate
of others as self, accepting differences where they are debatable and are motivated by love then shall we see less
of this kind
of thing.
Both are irrational... religion, which is force fed to Americans from childhood, creates the mental / emotional conditions for
other irrationalities like
fear and hatred
of people who are different in some way.
But
fear not, my fellow Christians and
other persons of moral (if not devout Catholic) beliefs... someday President Obama will be judge from the One on High.
For hermeneutics lives or dies by its ability to take history and language seriously, to give the
other (whether
person, event or text) our attention as
other, not as a projection
of our present
fears, hopes and desires.
Marco Polo says that Kublai Khan was not anti-Christian, and that he was convinced that the Christian faith was the best
of all religions but the low level
of learning he found among the Nestorians and his
fear that adherence to any one religion would divide the
people and set the
other religions against the government, prevented him from being baptized.
Not only were the Jews successful at defending themselves, but the Bible records that
people of other nationalities became Jews because the
fear of them and their God (Esther 4 - 9:19).
FEAR LEADS TO ANGER WHICH LEADS TO HATE WHICH CAUSES SUFFERING... The greatest horrors
of humanity have been committed by
people who use RELIGION as the justification for what they do whether its one side or the
other.
well just thinking about these wars in the muslim / mid-east world over religious differences (which may reflect mental states in many ways) in a world where most realize that living in the present moment is best way to happiness and being in the moment in non-strife and awareness through the teachings
of masters such as found in the buddhist, taoist, zen, etc., etc., etc. spriritually based practices
of religious like thought and teachings, etc. that to ask these scientifically educated populace whom have access to vast amounts
of knowledges and understandings on the internet, etc. to believe in past beliefs that perhaps gave basis and inspiration to that which followed — but is not the end all
of all times or knowledges — and is thus — non self - sustaining in a belief that does not encompass growth
of knowledge and understanding
of all truths and being as it is or could be — is to not respect the intelligence and minds and personage
of even themselves — not to be disrespected nor disrespectful in any way — only to point out that perhaps too much is asked to put
others into the cloak
of blind faith and adherance to the past that disregards the realities
of the present and the potential
of the future... so you try to live in the past — and destroy your present and your future — where is the intelligence in that — and why do
people continually
fear monger or allow to be
fear — mongered into this destructive vision
of the future based upon the past?
The inevitability
of death is denied, the medical profession
fears accusations
of negligence and litigation and elderly or terminally - ill
people are subjected to rigours
of surgery, or
other debilitating therapies, simply because it can be done.
A whole
other section deals with
people unwilling to make a choice with
fear of exclusion, they want to create their own definition
of what and how to believe, or perhaps they feel existing definitions are lacking or don't fit what they want.
To the
other... rest easy in knowing that I think being spiritual is a joke as well; but that is because I am an Atheist so I find Religious
people even more amusing I don't need
fear of an invisible angry old man to scare me into being a good
person; I do good things because I am a good
person and don't need an instruction manual.
To Ken Margo: I am totally agree with you about this evil thing going around the earth... this evil minded
people is there everywhere regardless
of faith... that was not what i was trying to say... my point was to be able to recognize the One True God who is Unseen and who has no partners as He is not in need
of any partners but we the creation is in need
of Him... thats all... I wish I could do something to stop all these taking place around the earth... I think we human
fear the fed laws more than we
fear the laws
of our Creator, for example not to associate any partner with Him, taking the life
of others, drug dealing, human trafficking, believing in hereafter and so on... I remember a story that I was talking with one
of my friends... I was telling him look we all obey the law
of the land so much like for example when we drive and no one moves even an inch when there is a school bus stop to pick / drop kids as it is a fed laws but when it comes to the laws
of our Creator, we don't care... like having physical relationship outside
of marriage and many more... then he said something nice... he said that its because we see the consequence
of breaking the law
of the land but we do not see the punishment
of hereafter even though it is mentioned very details in Quran, it even gives pictures
of hereafter....