And I KNOW formula
feeding mothers feel judged too.
66 % of breast -
feeding mothers felt sorry for formula fed babies while 33 % claimed bottle feed mothers were selfish and lazy.
Not exact matches
I would however hope that
mothers take into consideration the
feelings of others, and unless it is a emergency situation where the offspring need nourishment right away, that the
mother find a private spot to
feed it.
I think it's not the actual
feeding itself that bothers most in public, but the actual ability to see the
mother's breast which is common nature for the body to be covered in public, hence why we wears clothes, and that aspect of it
feels very awkward and uncomfortable.
Babies can go through growth spurts (you read about them here), leaving their
mothers feeling like they are doing nothing but
feeding.
Finally, if a woman is
feeling pressured to breastfeed but she doesn't really want to, bottle
feeding may be best for the
mother infant relationship.
When friends, relatives or even strangers question you about why you're bottle
feeding, it can be difficult to not
feel judged as a «bad
mother.»
It is wonderful to think that those
mothers who already
feel confident to do so (and no
mother should
feel any pressure to
feed her child in public) will continue to find their own preferred degree of comfort and discretion and breastfeed their children in public whenever and wherever it is right for them.
When your husband is exhausted by a punishing work schedule and complains that «all you do is sit there and
feed the baby,» or your
mother questions whether you have enough milk because little John is still not sleeping through, or someone tells you that you shouldn't
feel tired — hinting at a lack of fitness or will.
She was battling postpartum depression and
felt that «if I couldn't breast -
feed competently, I was a bad
mother,» she said.
«Teens are absolutely more likely to
feel responsible to the baby if they are breast -
feeding,» says Jennifer Maehr, a pediatrician at the University of California at San Diego, and co-author of two studies of adolescent
mothers» attitudes toward breast -
feeding.
We don't have our
mothers, aunts, sisters and friends to mimic when it comes to learning how to latch and
feel confident in our ability to
feed our babies with only our bodies.
Until we have further information, it is generally
felt that the
mother who is HIV positive not breastfeeding, at least in the situation where the risks of artificial
feeding are considered acceptable.
Then when I've been breastfeeding I've
felt directly excluded by the bottle - feeders... on one occasion being told that they hadn't invited me out for coffee because I was breastfeeding -LRB-??????!!!!!!!!!!!!) Nobody knows what battles a
mother has overcome to get to the point of either method of
feeding, it's not an area for judgement amongst women.
Why do you think most
mothers feel the need to explain why the formula
feed, even if no one asks?
It's important that anyone looking to further educate a teen
mother about her
feeding options understand that she may have conflicted
feelings about her pregnancy.
It was later that night at 1 pm, after my own
mother handed me a warmed bottle that I finally gave in and
feeling a failure, I bottle
fed her.
I am now retired, but I am so happy to see that finally women have the support systems to allow them to use their own judgement as a
mother and say «I am going to
feed my baby the way I want to and
feel is best for them and for me».
Mothers feel like they have been stripped of their right to make their own decisions about
feeding methods and this is just wrong!
So I started
feeding him a bottle after nursing, and
felt no stigma, no shame or worry about my
mothering capabilities.
I still
feel a bad
mother for failing to
feed especially when you hear the stories of those that battled through.
Somehow the thinking seems to be that if we don't talk about it,
mothers who apparently «choose» not to breastfeed will not
feel guilty,, and healthworkers who don't know how to help
mothers breastfeed can continue to suggest formula -
feeding as an easier alternative.
I've
felt like somewhat of a failure of a
mother and female in general for never making it past a few weeks without a bottle... because it
feels like
feed the bottle or sit there all day while your baby sucks and starves.
I used to cry when
feeding him but not because it was painful this time, but because I
felt ashamed that I was giving him formula and not «the best» and that I'd failed him as a
mother.
So whether we choose to breastfeed our babies for 2 years, 2 months, or not at all, we should respect each
mother's choice,
feel confident in our own, and most importantly, be honest with each other about both the gift and the sacrifice that comes with deciding to breast
feed (or not).
Whitney Thomas: I did tell him that I
felt that he was a hypocrite, because to my knowledge I didn't think that they had baby formula when he was a baby, and how did your
mother feed you?
Childhood food memory: «When I was 4, my
mother had to go away on a trip, and I had this coven of aunts who
felt sorry for me and looked after me by
feeding me strawberries in great vats.
While moms
feel pressured to
feed their infants human breast milk, two - thirds of
mothers are unable to produce enough milk or breastfeed as long as they wanted, according to a 2012 survey published in Pediatrics.
I went to a hormonal doctor and he told me to keep to a 1200 calories but I think this is crazy for a nursering
mother... so I'll stick to the frustration for at least a year which is the time I plan to
feed my baby because although it is keeping me fat and
feeling bad about myself me and my baby, we love to breastfeed and to be breastfed!
Unfortunately, this can lead to a
mother feeling anxious about
feeding her child when going out of the house, even though she has every right to
feed her child without fear of being judged or even yelled at.
The research conducted by breastfeeding brand Lansinoh found that more than half the people surveyed
felt that UK breastfeeding rates were so low because
mothers are scared of negative comments and verbal abuse when
feeding in public.
Few people
feel driven to provide the best, to «be far above normal,» she pointed out, but most people «certainly don't want to be below normal»... [B] y using words like «best» and «benefits of breastfeeding» rather than «normal» and «risks of formula
feeding,» breastfeeding supporters are depriving «
mothers of crucial decision - making information»...
Of course the mandate doesn't SAY «make all new
mothers feel like crap for not breast
feeding».
«There's nothing worse than, as a
mother, doing something that's so necessary like
feeding your child and
feeling like somebody could have an opinion about it or somebody's looking at you the wrong way.»
Everyone seems so obsessed about not making
mothers feeling guilty about formula
feeding as opposed to those who want to breastfeed but are undermined by free formula.
I
felt like a horrible
mother though because after a few days I started producing milk but by that time my son didn't want my milk I
felt pretty low... But I'm due to give birth in 5 weeks and I am going to breast
feed my daughter.
To quote myself: If you are one of those women who can't seem to offer your «support» without judging other women either directly or passive aggressively, if you do denigrate formula
feeding mothers in the name of upholding women who want to breastfeed, if you spread outright lies about formula companies and the product they sell, you are doing nothing but
feeding into the hype and exacerbating the anxiety
felt by some of the very
mothers you claim to express concern for.......
when i had to give my baby formula, i
felt like a horrible mom bc all the breastfeeding articles make formula -
feeding mothers sound like they do nt have their childs best intrest in mind.
It's the constant question — we don't want
mothers who decide to
feed formula to
feel like they are bad
mothers.
My first birth was complete with a reluctant epidural and inept education in
feeding babies with tongue ties and having inverted nipples and loving my child but so not loving being a
mother with this looming
feeling of failure and just being utterly lost and then realizing four months in to this journey of hot mess, surprise, I was pregnant again and terrified.
No
mother should
feel guilty for how she
feeds her baby, unless she's
feeding her baby mocha frappuccinos and mai tais.
I struggled with formula
feeding just 2 days after my little guy was born, for both the fact that I
felt like a failure as a
mother not being able to provide nourishment to my child and I know what commercial formula can do to kids (especially soy and little boys).
Because there is so much pressure on
mothers to breastfeed, you may
feel guilty at first about switching to bottle
feeding.
Now iam 25 weeks pregnanent.With my first baby i was not able o poduce enough milk for him even though i wanted to breast
feed him.This actually led me to a depression state and i always
felt iam not a good
mother, even though it was not my mistake.
I want to be the kind of
mother whose connection comes not from how she
fed her baby but how she connected to him, whose friendships formed not because of how she
fed or birthed or transported her baby, but because of how she connected to other
mothers and made them
feel welcome in her presence.
In the same way it is also okay to
feel uncomfortable around bottle -
feeding mothers, whatever the reason for the discomfort.
This
mother felt like she should use the chair for
feeding her baby as her
mother had nursed her in the same chair (quite unsuccessfully, mind you).
From a
mother with good intentions who didn't see anything wrong with
feeding her daughter to a
mother who wished she'd just let her daughter
feed herself, I'm still
feeling my way through this motherhood thing and this is one of my opinions on what I'd do differently if I had it all to do over again.
While breastfeeding a
mother will not
feel uncomfortable anymore and the father will bottle
feed without making arms tired with a perfect nursing rocking chair.
If the choice is to perhaps hurt the formula -
feeding mother's
feelings (though not on purpose) or protect the breastfeeding couples basic rights not to give formula, I vote to protect the
mother and baby's rights.