Not exact matches
are made to
feel tremendous guilt and
failure at the hands
of some
of the so called «experts» (I call them breast
feeding Nazis!
I've
felt like somewhat
of a
failure of a mother and female in general for never making it past a few weeks without a bottle... because it
feels like
feed the bottle or sit there all day while your baby sucks and starves.
A systematic review
of the scientific literature indicates that women who intend to breastfeed but who later
feed their babies formula consistently report
feelings of guilt, anger, worry, uncertainty, and a sense
of failure despite the relief that introducing formula after experiencing difficulties with breastfeeding may bring (Lakshman, Ogilvie, & Ong, 2009).
Some moms
feel like
failures, but the truth is that cluster
feeding is just a part
of the process.
My first birth was complete with a reluctant epidural and inept education in
feeding babies with tongue ties and having inverted nipples and loving my child but so not loving being a mother with this looming
feeling of failure and just being utterly lost and then realizing four months in to this journey
of hot mess, surprise, I was pregnant again and terrified.
if breastfeeding is something you truly want for your child, and like me you are one
of those 3 %, you will
feel like a
failure and you may well face judgemental professionals and the like when you make the only option you have to switch to formula
feeding.
Many respondents made connections between formula
feeding and
feelings of guilt and
failure, as three participants describe below:
I
feel that if you are uncomfortable with breastfeeding, that «bonding time» that should help build trust, will lead instead to frustration, resentment, and, at least in my experience, a
feeling of failure; formula
feeding both
of my sons still gave me the wonderful experience
of nurturing, caring for, and bonding.
However, despite their sometimes strong
feelings of guilt and
failure, many
of the formula -
feeding participants expressed a powerful desire to re-establish their identities outside
of the context
of pregnancy, childbirth or mothering:
I
felt like a
failure, and suddenly all I could think
of was the benefit
of breast -
feeding.
«It was a colossal
failure, and it
feeds the already overwhelming cynicism that the public
feels about Albany,» said Blair Horner, legislative director
of the New York Public Interest Research Group.