I know a lot of women who breastfeed through pregnancy, but I need to consider how I will
feel about him weaning when I am pregnant, because it is a definite possibility.
Unapologetic about the fact that some babies need to be supplemented, some mothers do not want to pump, and some families have strong
feelings about weaning.
But a lot of us have mixed
feelings about weaning, whether we decide to partially, gradually, or abruptly wean or to nurse as long as our kids feel like they need it.
Not exact matches
I didn't even know why I
felt so bad
about considering giving up, because everyone, even medical experts, was telling me my baby would be fine if I didn't breastfeed, and I personally had nothing against formula at all (again, I fully expected to
wean to it eventually, probably around the six month mark).
It is my hope that as a result of segments like the one on 20/20 and the fact that more women are
feeling comfortable speaking out
about long - term nursing (as evidenced by all of the comments and Tweets I received), that others will not
feel like they need to be «closet nursers» nor
feel pressured by family, friends or society in general to
wean before they
feel it is right for them and their child.
I know it would be bittersweet if she
weaned now, but I would
feel very good
about what I've been able to give her, as well as what she's been able to give me.
Do you still
feel a little bit confused
about what
weaning really is and what you can expect from it?
Do you
feel a little bit better
about working through the baby led
weaning process with your little one now?
With my job, its getting harder for me to pump with night functions, etc., and I'm
feeling super guilty
about wanting to
wean.
It actually makes me
feel like crying... Whoever came up with this idea that a child needs to
wean at X, Y or Z age, actually, has no idea what they are talking
about!
I'm ready to
wean but every time I think
about it I
feel sad.
And I know that in my heart, I will not
feel good
about weaning unless my daughter is the one to initiate it, as my son had.
If tandem nursing becomes too overwhelming, you don't have to
feel guilty
about weaning your older child.
You may
feel a little bittersweet
about weaning your baby.
If
weaning was not something that you wanted, it can make you
feel like a failure and bring
about a sense of sadness, anger, or guilt.
Another reason to consider delaying
weaning an older baby or toddler is because the hormones (such as oxytocin) released while breastfeeding bring
about calm and loving
feelings in the mother, and can help mitigate the stress the mom of a busy toddler
feels.
Now that you've learned some helpful hints on how to
wean a breastfed baby, we hope that you
feel a little bit more confident in your own decisions
about the process.
When taking a gradual approach to
weaning, plan to drop one feeding
about every 3 - 4 days to a week, depending upon how you
feel physically.
By this stage, you and your baby both should be
feeling quite a lot better
about the whole
weaning process.
While you may
feel a little apprehensive
about the
weaning process — and your baby may, too!
So, does this help you
feel a little better
about learning when to
wean a baby from a bottle?
Well, do you
feel like you've learned a lot
about your baby's
weaning process?
You
feel nervous
about Baby Led
Weaning but do not know how to feed your baby purees without getting stuck on them.
Even if your baby is clinging to your breast like it's the last lifeboat off a sinking ship, wailing for another nursing session and, over-all, making you
feel like total crap
about weaning, know that your decision to
wean, even if the only reason is «I really don't want to nurse anymore, I'm done» is still the best decision.
I am glad of hearing some honesty
about the desire to day
wean... it makes me
feel better
about my irritation with it sometimes.
But I love the closeness of breastfeeding and I know that this is the best nutrition for her (not to mention free - formula is so expensive), so I
feel really ambivalent
about weaning.
In no particular order, I'm going to guess that the itching is a) psychosomatic (because you're
feeling kind of itchy
about still nursing but also itchy
about weaning), b) caused by some kind of minor infection or fungus (like low - grade thrush), or c) caused by dry skin from showers that are too hot or a harsh soap.
Or your own
feelings of guilt
about the
weaning process?
This month I bought Baby at The Table:
Weaning the Italian Way and there are some really great tips and recipes in there, I'd really recommend it if you're feeling a bit clueless about w
Weaning the Italian Way and there are some really great tips and recipes in there, I'd really recommend it if you're
feeling a bit clueless
about weaningweaning.
I think most of us
feel some guilt
about weaning, whether we do it at three days or four years.
I've definately started to
feel a little pressure from others re
weaning — friendly suggestions re how to go
about it — and for a while there I
felt I almost had to apologise for still feeding!
Yeah, I haven't
weaned yet, but probably will before one year, and I'm getting kind of sick of articles and people that make me
feel guilty
about this.
I know that this comes from the sadness I
felt at having to stop but reading this made me
feel guilty
about weaning, even though it was a decision that my body made for me.
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Weaning
Even if you
feel very ready to
wean your toddler, you might still
feel conflict
about it.
I
feel so relieved after reading
about weaning and transitioning from formula to milk.
The time didn't
feel right to stop then (as there were other changes then too), so I slowly started
weaning at
about 13 months.
Oh, Lauren, I
feel you * hugs * I talked
about this in the Carnival of
Weaning - I wasn't averse or bothered by physically nursing Abbey, it is the intensity of her demands that were really eating at the relationship.
It's really awesome when both mom and child
feel good
about how
weaning unfolds.
I am okay if someone else
feels it isn't for them, or that they needed to
wean, but there should be no assumptions made
about what someone chooses to continue.
With my first child, I
felt pangs of guilt
about this — I wondered if I was being «pure»
about his
weaning.
I don't believe the emotions
felt by mothers who don't breastfeed or who
wean early are as simple as «guilt»: when we really examine mothers»
feelings about things gone wrong, it is rarely guilt that they are expressing, especially
about not breastfeeding or not breastfeeding as long or as completely as they would have liked to: well informed mothers who reach for the bottle after a struggle with breastfeeding know they have done the best they could with the resources they had at the time (health, energy, knowledge, support)-- these mothers may
feel deeply sad and disappointed, they may be grieving, but guilt isn't an appropriate label for these overwhelming
feelings of loss for themselves and their babies.
Just today, my self -
weaned 2.5 year old was trying to catch me to nurse as I was jumping out of my shower and I
felt very caught up
about how to respond!
The questions range from emotional -
feeling guilty
about exclusively pumping instead of nursing and being unsure
about weaning to practical - is my supply normal for six days post-partum and what should I do if my pump broke?
I know that I personally
felt like, you know, I didn't try hard enough, maybe if I would've kept going eventually he would've caught on, and so I kind of
felt like guilty
about it, and so then
weaning was kind of like, then giving up again a little bit I thought.
If you decide to do this one, I would recommend: 1) dropping all pacifier
weaning talk until you are actually ready to begin the
weaning process, and 2) timing it so the «goodbye» day lands on something awesome and positive, like his birthday or birthday party day or special family outing that will keep him from
feeling sad
about it.
In that moment, we
felt validation and excitement
about our baby - led
weaning journey.
I wish mothers didn't retain guilt
feelings about past
weaning.
She can show her child other busily nursing babies, and can talk
about any mixed
feelings she has — perhaps she's wondering if this might be a chance to
wean that she'll later regret not having taken, or she might be wondering what effect this will have long term on their breastfeeding relationship.
When learning
about baby led
weaning where to start can
feel like a complicated subject.