Not exact matches
After thinking through all these
things about the business you're considering starting, do you still
feel as good about the idea
as before?
Hopefully having a
good wallow, really thinking
about your
feelings and showing yourself some compassion (sadly, there's no word from Gilbertson on whether that can come in the form of chocolate fudge brownie icecream) should help ease your fear of failure going forward, but Gilbertson suggests that you take
things slowly
as you move on from a disappointment.
«I know that some of you here
feel that successive governments and local authorities have wanted to applaud all the
good things that you do
as Christians, but discourage you from speaking openly
about the faith that motivates you,» she said.
Can say that I believe in every
thing that you disbelief of when it comes to the Creator and the Creation of universe, life and guidance, God has given me hearing, seeing, thinking and heart
feelings to see and experience signs and small miracles to have faith in him and continue with
good deeds I was told of in his Holy Book although am not perfect at that but nothing to lose but contrary to that there are more to gain in life and life after... For those disbelievers they lose their senses by being locked and blocked from such experiences... It is all
about souls
as verses speak for them selves;
That was a very interesting read many comments caught my attention I've recently been diagnosed with Bipolar I have hallucinations and hear voices in my ear's when I hallucinate it's likes they are trying to get me thousands of them I can only describe them
as dark shadows and they are trying to get me just
as they are
about to get me a brilliant white light surrounds me and there's three entities humanly shaped but like this brilliant white light they are also glowing this brilliant whiteness I can't understand what they are saying the only way I can explain it is emotions comfort joy love is what I
feel emanating from these entities the voices I hear aren't evil telling me to do bad
things to people when I get put into a mode of fear I live in a rough area of Scotland and everytime I've got into a fight something possesses me I know this for a fact
as I can't control myself I'm an observer watching my family / Friends say I change they say my eyes change and I look evil I personally do think possibly through my own personal experience I» am possessed
as I act out of character I've lost interest in many
things I've recently I decided it's time for change I've lost my faith I've been trying to connect with God and
feel his love which I used to
feel the presence of the holy spirit everytime I try connect I get a
feeling of abandonment I just think if I am possessed could these entities stop me connecting with «God» I can say from my heart of hearts «JESUS CHRIST HAS COME IN THE FLESH» I think it's more to do with the persons own personal fears which I have noticed my fears have changed if I had to be truthfully with myself I fear God which I know I'm not supposed to just I can't explain it I guess if you ever need a test subject I'm up for the challenge like I said I'm on journey to find myself and my travels have brought me hear I'm going to hang around for a wee while there's lots of
good information to be plundered loll
(iii) you are a complete blowhard who has never studied one subject of university level biology, never been on an archaeological dig, never studied a
thing about paleontology, geology, astronomy, linguistics or archaeology, but
feel perfectly sure that you know more than the
best biologists, archaeologists, paleontologists, doctors, astronomers botanists and linguists in the World because your mommy and daddy taught you some comforting stories from Bronze Age Palestine
as a child.
There were pictures of women, every tribe, every tongue, on every wall, and so it
felt like everyone here in the world was there with us, somehow, and a gigantic canvas on the stairs said: There is no such
thing as small change, and the famous red couch at Idelette's was worn out and comfortable, especially with Kelley sprawled on it, twisting her hair unconcernedly when she really got talking
about the theology of adoption and Lord, yes, that woman can preach and teach in a living room beside a piano
better than some preachers I've seen in thousand - dollar suits on a television show.
People who have self - control don't eat like pigs, buy
things they can't afford in order to
feel better about themselves, or engage in sexual activity
as if it were only a game.
While we certainly need to be careful
about putting theologians like Bonhoeffer on too high of pedestals, I still
feel as though there are
things about him that are both commendable and, if repeated by modern Christians, could help shape our collective character for the
better.
Hereâ $ ™ s some of the
things that grabbed me: important theological / spiritual themes are developed through the story such
as good and evil, leadership, courage, love, forgiveness, and unity;
good character development; convincing geographical descriptions; it does
feel like the same kind of worlds Tolkien, Charles Williams and C. S. Lewis wrote
about.
only reason y i say this is because of Santification, once we give our life to the Lord, we streight way (so to speak) begin the process of Santification, this is Christ making us like him, and this Is SUFFERING It does nt happen over night, but for the duration of our time here,
as you have said, its sort of like sin being done unto us, and we are handleing it just like Christ did, (with Love) of coarse with the help of the Holy Spirit, This Does NOT
feel Good At ALL since our soulful flesh is Corrupt, (but our spirit is saved) This is were your trails and tribulation, your own desire, and All play apart, Now Moment by Moment we choose by our own will, And Jesus helps in these times,
as he was tempeted, but without sin, The devil can do nothing but try and decieve the Christian into thinking that he has to work for his salvation
as you have said, this
thing here is
about your Inheritance In Christ, Its gonna be some show nought broke christian in Heaven, because their trying to set of for themseleve trasure on earth, and their is going to be weeping and gnat of teeth, but it wont be, because of their going to Hell, It will be cause they miss out on what they could have had, and it is Devistation, cause they waste so much time, and they wont be able to attend the wedding, supper of the lamb, they wont be, getting the position over city, galacy, ectt... just check it out some of the points i have made, God Bless you!
Even those who are not informed
about contemporary psychological analysis of human experience may very
well feel that it is not adequate to describe that experience
as if we were speaking
about some persistent «I», to which
things happened; a self which did
things that were, so to say, merely adjectival to the substantival «I».
Rick the more i think
about it we are to live
as overcomers not strugglers since the day i decided to turn away from the sin that was controlling my life i never fell back into old sinful patterns not once, was i tempted many many times.The Lord will work in our lives one area at a time he needs us to give him full control so if an area is taking control we do need to hand it to him so he can change us.How do we do it immediately we say Lord you know i am weak but in you i am strong i leaned on him and overcame time and time again.We all have areas of weakness that we struggle in so do nt
feel bad.Struggling is us trying to do it in our own strength before this process i was so stubborn i refused to let God help me i wanted to do it in my own strength and so it was a roller coaster ride in my christian walk if the day went
well i was on a high if it did nt i would would be down.Not any more now when
things do nt go to plan i still thank the Lord and when it goes
well i thank the Lord.Because i know that all
things work for
good to those who love the Lord.The main area he is wanting is our hearts he wants all our heart not only some until we come to that place we will continue to struggle in our faith.The only reason to tell you this is not to boast because of what i have done in myself because i have nothing to boast
about but if i did i would brag that Christ has empowered me by his holy spirit to be an overcomer just
as he would want you to be.
As Christians we are all called to be overcomers more than conquerers.Make a decision today to turn all your hearts to the Lord to acknowledge the areas you are holding onto that are controlling your flesh life hand them to the Lord and walk according to the spirit and not the flesh and he will give you the victory.That can be a reality starting today merry christmas everyone and may the new year be an exciting one
as we put all our trust in Christ our Lord and savior.Brentnz
Tim i found it liberating to just do what the Lord wants you to do i work within his boundarys and yes i attend church and enjoy it.I love the people and i love hearing the word and worshipping the Lord even if others are still bound up with traditions thats not my walk thats theres.My focus is to do what the Lord wants me to do.There have been times i have said no to the pastor he does nt understand why i choose not to lead the worship.i query him
as well regarding the idea that its not just performing a function because there is a need our hearts have to be in the right place so that the Lord can use us but he did nt understand where i was coming from and thats okay because of that i just said no until my heart is right i am
better not being involved in leading.But i am happy to be an encouragement to others in the worship team i havent wanted to be the leader i have done that in the past.So my focus has been just the singing and being part of different worship teams i think the Lord has other plans
as the groups i am in seem to be changing at the same time i am aware that i do nt to worry
about change
as the Lord knows whats best.I used to be quite comfortable leading the music but that was before when i was operating in my own self confidence and pride.The Lord did such a huge change in my life that i lost my self confidence and that is not a bad
thing at all
as my spiritual growth has been incredible.The big change was my identity moved from me and what i could do to knowing who i was in Christ and that he is my strength and confidence.Now i know that without him i can do nothing in fact i am dependent on his empowerment through his holy spirit all the time in everything.In the weekend i was asked to lead the music at another church i attend multiple churchs although i attend two regularly one has services in the morning and one has services in the evening so the two do nt really clash.In the weekend i was asked to lead the music its been two years since i did that and i was worried on how i would go.All i can say is that it went really
well and because i stepped out in Faith the Lord really blessed the morning to the congregation.The difference is knowing that i serve the Lord with the gifts he has given me but my heart has to be right and when i do it in his way it builds up the body and it brings glory to him.May the Lord continue to show you what he wants you to do even though others may not understand your reasons i just want you to know that you do nt have to pull away completely just work within the boundarys that the Lord gives you and do nt
feel pressured by others expectations to do anything that
feel uncomfortable.Be involved just
as you
feel lead by the holy spirit even if it is in a very minor way take small steps.regards brentnz
But that kind of language works
better in campaigns than in governance; eventually, you have to talk
about things as they are, not just
as you
feel they should be, and so it was inevitable that the radiance of his oratory dimmed a little once he took office.
Mirosal... you are not doing great with any answers...
as a matter of fact you arent answering any questions... you are asking them... and why is it so important to claim that you are atheist... this is false pride... something that is evident in any unatural and foolish human group... its almost
as if people hide behind this false pride to make them
feel better for
things they know in their own heart are foolish... and what need is there for order if there is no GOD... because if no one cared
about their soul... then this might become the dog eat dog world that you people are hoping for
(iii) you are a complete blowhard who has never studied one subject of university level biology, never been on an archeological dig, never studied a
thing about paleontology, geology, astronomy, linguistics or archeology, but
feel perfectly sure that you know more than the
best biologists, archeologists, paleontologists, doctors, astronomers botanists and linguists in the World because your mommy and daddy taught you some comforting stories from Bronze Age Palestine
as a child.
People don't need religion to
feel good about themselves, to have a purpose or to do
good things as demonstrated by atheists having these qualities, myself being a
good example.
best thing ever being able to sit at my desk at work and have brownies after my lunch and not
feel bad
about it these for me are definitely
better once they've cooled off
as they tasted much more chocolatey today than the «tester» ones i ate last night.
The
things you worry
about... ok my friend, you just need more wine and you won't worry
as much I worry and all of parenting
feels like blind stabs in the dark some days, but we're all just doing the
best we can do and you're an amazing mama!
There's usually seeds in many gluten - free products
as well, so I haven't been stressing
about it that much
as I've
felt that seeds are not probably the worst
thing you can eat while pregnant.
I am not complaining actually because this chili was really
good — it's the times I royally screw something up and STILL make myself eat it, so
as not to waste the whole
thing, that I might
feel a tad whiny
about the situation.
whether for the right or wrong reasons, our leader chose to stay on when
things took a turn of sorts... a new owner arrived on the scene, plans for a new stadium emerged and Wenger became the bearer of bad news... he sold us on a new story, one that required patience on our parts... financial constraints were the order of the day, so that the enormous sums spent on the new venue could be recouped... although some would question the validity of such claims, why wouldn't they believe their faithful leader... according to those within the hierarchy, the future never looked so bright,
as this new home would ensure our place among the elites for years to come...
as we all know now these claims were a
well constructed fabrication and so those who
feel they were duped in the process are infuriated and rightly so... the fact that this club and it's manager have continually misled the fans, especially following Gazidis's claims
about our financial liquidity, simply rubbed more salt in an already gaping wound... this surely isn't how you treat your «family», especially when they supported you through the supposed «lean» years... it was a dirty trick played by Kroenke but the fact is was orchestrated by Wenger himself hurt the most...
as for those in the media, many of whom are former players or longtime pundits, who observed the early years firsthand, saw this
as the perfect opportunity to vent the anger they
felt towards this pretentious man once and for all... all in all, karma's a bitch
We're NOT linked now with anyone else and that's a worrying
thing in itself, I personally really don't think Walcott is
good enough to play that striker role and I know I'll get roundly «thumbed down» for this but its how I
feel about the boy he's
good but NOT
as good as he thinks he is and it annoys me that theres a possibility that all the toing and froing around his contract may be stopping us from signing a top notch striker (and I DO NT think Martinez is this) I do
feel that AW will opt for the cheap and second rate options again and this will also include not buying a striker and putting Walcott in this role, meanwhile all our rivals will be putting strong established players into the positions where they need to bull up their squads we are not
well known for doing this and its not going to happen now, which is infuriating
as this is the right time to break that mould and go for it!!
Now on to Monaco and we should be
feeling good about things, especially
as Swnsea dfid us a huge favour by beating man ure.
Although I've found it very cathartic to speak, vent and end occasionally rant
about all
things Arsenal, we need to act carefully and intelligently right now or we're going to get played by this club even worse than at present... the pro-Wengerites and the suits, who represent a considerable proportion of the season ticket holders, don't want to believe that there is no plan and that Wenger has mailed it in for several years now or that
things are going to get much worse before they get
better... why would they... many have spent a considerable sum buying some of the highest priced tickets in the World... they want to have a front row seat to see something special and to be seen doing so, which simply provides ample justification for the expense and the time invested... to many of them, Wenger is the sun in their soccer universe... his awkward disposition, misplaced arrogance and his utter lack of balls makes him a rather unusual cult figure, but the cerebral narrative seemed to embolden those who already
felt pretty highly of themselves... many might not even of really liked football that much before his arrival and rarely games they weren't attending...
as such, they desperately believe that Wenger, and only Wenger, can supply them with their required fix... if he goes, they were wrong and that's a tough pill to swallow... they would have to admit that they were duped... they will definitely resent whoever made them
feel this way, but of course it will be too late by then... so when we go overboard with ridiculous comments bordering of anarchy, it scares the shit out of them and they shift their blame towards us rather than at those who really perpetrated this act of treason... we aren't the enemy... we simply woke much earlier and the reason our comments have gotten more vile in recent years is out of utter frustration... in order for any real change to occur at this club we need to bring
as many supporters
as possible with us or the big money interests will fade and our ultimate objective will be lost... so it's time to focus on the head instead of the heart for now
That is a very
good articles Wenger shou; ld never have been given a new contract he has completeky lossed the plot and if he is allowed to stay on
things will get steaderly worse with our team I have supported Arsenal for over 70 years and we have had some bad times during that period but I have never
felt the way I
feel at the moment I really hate Wenger now and have never said that
about any of our managers before But really believe Wenger will destroy our great club I believe the Boerd of Directors plus Usmanvof should out vote Kronke and make Usmanof the new Chairman then Usmanof will then sack Wenger
As he said he would do if he was Chaiman then we could appoint a new Manager the one from Juventus or Atletico Madrid and Start to see Arsenal begin to be great again
As well because I
feel more the responsibility, you're not 20 years somewhere and you don't care
about things.
And just
as those stories are adding up, so too is a $ 9.7 billion and growing industry in North America around
things like tinctures and creams and inhalers and tablets and vape pens and more that all can purportedly make you
feel better in just
about every way you think you need to
feel better — from strong evidence that it soothes regular «ol aches to nascent (but not insignificant) evidence that it slows the production of proteins that cause Alzheimer's.
As long as you support your club through the hard times and good times then you are a fan regardless of what you say it is about the heart not the words but the heart.Also not only stats are facts but they might also be quiet misleading.For Afobe i will not comment anymore but i do know for sure that he will reach my expectation and maybe you do not see it that way and you might feel i am not speaking with facts or whatever but life itself has no formula and is not really bound by facts because we make the facts.Afobe can become a world class player and i do not care if any manager in the EPL does not see it that way but i see it that way.For talent is given to the one who can harness it and once things go right then i expect him to be there.No one can take that away from hi
As long
as you support your club through the hard times and good times then you are a fan regardless of what you say it is about the heart not the words but the heart.Also not only stats are facts but they might also be quiet misleading.For Afobe i will not comment anymore but i do know for sure that he will reach my expectation and maybe you do not see it that way and you might feel i am not speaking with facts or whatever but life itself has no formula and is not really bound by facts because we make the facts.Afobe can become a world class player and i do not care if any manager in the EPL does not see it that way but i see it that way.For talent is given to the one who can harness it and once things go right then i expect him to be there.No one can take that away from hi
as you support your club through the hard times and
good times then you are a fan regardless of what you say it is
about the heart not the words but the heart.Also not only stats are facts but they might also be quiet misleading.For Afobe i will not comment anymore but i do know for sure that he will reach my expectation and maybe you do not see it that way and you might
feel i am not speaking with facts or whatever but life itself has no formula and is not really bound by facts because we make the facts.Afobe can become a world class player and i do not care if any manager in the EPL does not see it that way but i see it that way.For talent is given to the one who can harness it and once
things go right then i expect him to be there.No one can take that away from him.
As the Premier League adjourns itself, we can probably assume that José Mourinho is
feeling pretty
good about things.
For example, BRT spoke
about how we need to teach men not to
feel entitled to certain
things (like women's bodies) they don't have a right to,
as well as not conditioning «famous» people to believe they can get away with
things by idolizing them so much.
Time for some brutal honesty... this team,
as it stands, is in no
better position to compete next season than they were 12 months ago, minus the fact that some fans have been easily snowed by the acquisition of Lacazette, the free transfer LB and the release of Sanogo... if you look at the facts carefully you will see a team that still has far more questions than answers... to
better show what I mean by this statement I will briefly discuss the current state of affairs on a position - by - position basis... in goal we have 4 potential candidates, but in reality we have only 1 option with any real future and somehow he's the only one we have actively tried to get rid of for years because he and his father were a little too involved on social media and he got caught smoking (funny how people still defend Wiltshire under the same and far worse circumstances)... you would think we would want to keep any goaltender that Juventus had interest in,
as they seem to have a pretty
good history when it comes to that position...
as far
as the defenders on our current roster there are only a few individuals whom have the skill and / or youth worthy of our time and / or investment,
as such we should get rid of anyone who doesn't meet those simple requirements, which means we should get rid of DeBouchy, Gibbs, Gabriel, Mertz and loan out Chambers to see if last seasons foray with Middlesborough was an anomaly or a prediction of
things to come... some fans have lamented wildly
about the return of Mertz to the starting lineup due to his FA Cup performance but these sort of pie in the sky meanderings are indicative of what's wrong with this club and it's wishy - washy fan - base... in addition to these moves the club should aggressively pursue the acquisition of dominant and mobile CB to stabilize an all too fragile defensive group that has self - destructed on numerous occasions over the past 5 seasons... moving forward and building on our need to re-establish our once dominant presence throughout the middle of the park we need to target a CDM then do whatever it takes to get that player into the fold without any of the usual nickel and diming we have become famous for (this kind of ruthless haggling has cost us numerous special players and certainly can't help make the player in question
feel good about the way their future potential employer
feels about them)... in order for us to become dominant again we need to be strong up the middle again from Goalkeeper to CB to DM to ACM to striker, like we did in our most glorious years before and during Wenger's reign... with this in mind, if we want Ozil to be that dominant attacking midfielder we can't keep leaving him exposed to constant ridicule
about his lack of defensive prowess and provide him with the proper players in the final third... he was never a
good defensive player in Real or with the German National squad and they certainly didn't suffer
as a result of his presence on the pitch...
as for the rest of the midfield the blame falls squarely in the hands of Wenger and Gazidis, the fact that Ramsey, Ox, Sanchez and even Ozil were allowed to regularly start when none of the aforementioned had more than a year left under contract is criminal for a club of this size and financial might... the fact that we could find money for Walcott and Xhaka, who weren't even guaranteed starters, means that our whole business model needs a complete overhaul... for me it's time to get rid of some serious deadweight, even if it means selling them below what you believe their market value is just to simply right this ship and change the stagnant culture that currently exists... this means saying goodbye to Wiltshire, Elneny, Carzola, Walcott and Ramsey... everyone, minus Elneny, have spent just
as much time on the training table
as on the field of play, which would be manageable if they weren't so inconsistent from a performance standpoint (excluding Carzola, who is like the recent version of Rosicky — too bad, both will be deeply missed)... in their places we need to bring in some proven performers with no history of injuries... up front, although I do like the possibilities that a player like Lacazette presents, the fact that we had to wait so many years to acquire some true quality at the striker position falls once again squarely at the feet of Wenger... this issue highlights the ultimate scam being perpetrated by this club since the arrival of Kroenke: pretend your a small market club when it comes to making purchases but milk your fans like a big market club when it comes to ticket prices and merchandising... I believe the reason why Wenger hasn't pursued someone of Henry's quality, minus a fairly inexpensive RVP, was that he knew that they would demand players of a similar ilk to be brought on board and that wasn't possible when the business model was that of a «selling» club... does it really make sense that we could only make a cheeky bid for Suarez, or that we couldn't get Higuain over the line when he was being offered up for half the price he eventually went to Juve for, or that we've only paid any interest to strikers who were clearly not going to press their current teams to let them go to Arsenal like Benzema or Cavani... just part of the facade that finally came crashing down when Sanchez finally called their bluff... the fact remains that no one wants to win more than Sanchez, including Wenger, and although I don't agree with everything that he has done off the field, I would much rather have Alexis front and center than a manager who has clearly bought into the Kroenke model in large part due to the fact that his enormous ego suggests that only he could accomplish great
things without breaking the bank... unfortunately that isn't possible anymore
as the game has changed quite dramatically in the last 15 years, which has left a largely complacent and complicit Wenger on the outside looking in... so don't blame those players who demanded more and were left wanting... don't blame those fans who have tried desperately to raise awareness for several years when cracks began to appear... place the blame at the feet of those who were
well aware all along of the potential pitfalls of just such a plan but continued to follow it even when it was no longer a financial necessity, like it ever really was...
It's the fans that keep sacrificing because this team can't get their head out of their own ass... please give me some examples when a top club ever let their
best player leave for free at the end of a season... Wenger needs to go to PSG and get some money and talent for Sanchez so that we can end this nonsense once and for all... then he needs to publicly apologize for the way in which they handled the whole situation... if they allow Sanchez to go for free there is no way this club, under the tutelage of Kroenke and Wenger, will ever layout the necessary coin to replace such a talented player, especially considering that Wenger will be a lame - duck manager once again in the final year of his contract and we know how
well that went last year... open your eyes people, Wenger has spoken publicly
about how he hopes that the next manager can take this club to the next level... WHAT?!?... he then went on to speak
about leaving them in the perfect position to be successful, which is one of the reasons why several pundits
felt Wenger would leave after last season based on the financials and the fact that so many players had only one year left on their respective contracts... who says this shit??? If you believe you're leaving
things in the
best possible shape for your potential successor to achieve greatness it raises a couple of serious questions: Why can't you take
things to the next level if everything is
as great
as you say?
Got ta agree with almost all you say... apart from the Welbeck
thing I think he's never going to pull it off I
feel he's
about as good as he's ever gonna be and IMO that's not
good enough.
The weird (not in a bad way)
thing is that the match then became no disqualification
as well, so, like, if Jericho escapes from the cage somehow, or drops a wrench or a chain or a bazooka or whatever down below for his bff Kevin Owens to use, then Owens can use it on Reigns and not
feel bad
about it in the slightest or suffer any kind of punishment from the ref.
The other
thing I've learned is that our main job
as parents is to find a way to support and make our kids
feel good about themselves.
We have a few HABA toys that were given to us
as gifts and those are nearly the only
thing I
feel good about letting 8 - month - old teething Julian chew on these days.
I know a lot of moms
feel that way
about breastfeeding
as well as other parenting
things.
So I did it probably for ten, twelve sessions, and to me, the biggest benefit was just keeping me really balanced throughout the pregnancy, with the twin pregnancy I just
felt really large and
things got pretty uncomfortable towards the end, so I think for me the prenatal yoga helped me just stay balanced and also really aware of my body, and I think that helped with the birth experience, helping me be aware of my position and my posture, so I did an unmedicated labor with my twins
as well, so I could just really think
about if I am sitting up, opening my pelvis, and be aware of that.
Robin Kaplan: And I think that - and I want to ask Daisy
as well about her experience - but the
thing that I want to point out is; I think that people, when they hear
about nursing in public harassment, I don't think they realize the repercussions on the mom who is hearing this and the devastation and the way that it makes her
feel.
They saved us money and I
felt good about the fabric we used for our sweet little one's tushy... besides the fact that he looked Super cute in them
as for messy, that never bothered me, we had a toilet spray
thing that made it SO much easier, so clean - up was a breeze Great post, thanks!
The only
thing that is holding me back from the urbo2 is I heard many complaints
about it being a hassle to fold and unfold
as well as the frame
feeling flimsy.
The difference with doing my LOVE YOUR BIRTH childbirth education course is that you are guided by a professional through your journey and are given the tools necessary for really preparing yourself for the unknowns of labor, childbirth and beyond
as best that you can, and
feel deeply positive
about it - even embrace the unexpected, when
things did not turn out
as planned.
«They have to
feel comfortable sharing what they want and what they don't want,
as well as ask questions
about those
things they just are not sure
about.»
While parents have been happy
about learning
things they can do differently to make life
better for their children and themselves, they have also
felt frustrated and guilty (
as did I) that they didn't have this information before they had their children.
I don't believe the emotions
felt by mothers who don't breastfeed or who wean early are
as simple
as «guilt»: when we really examine mothers»
feelings about things gone wrong, it is rarely guilt that they are expressing, especially
about not breastfeeding or not breastfeeding
as long or
as completely
as they would have liked to:
well informed mothers who reach for the bottle after a struggle with breastfeeding know they have done the
best they could with the resources they had at the time (health, energy, knowledge, support)-- these mothers may
feel deeply sad and disappointed, they may be grieving, but guilt isn't an appropriate label for these overwhelming
feelings of loss for themselves and their babies.
As your baby learns that
things continue to exist even when she can't see them, she'll
feel better about letting you out of her sight.
I
feel that women and their partners do much
better with privacy and intimacy during the birth process and that, my role is to sometimes protect that privacy and intimacy first of all by educating them that that might be really important and to talk
about you know the effect both positive and negative
about um, support during that time can be or even just letting people know hey, we're in labour, the Facebook kind of
thing but you know keep it quiet, keep it down, don't fritter the energy away by drawing other people to it or drawing the expectation that something's happening rather than just letting something evolve... I think guarding the space by keeping the space
as calm and quiet and private
as possible is key and giving people tools to do that during the prenatal time to deal with over eager family members or friends.
Now, here's the
thing I said that stunned this group, «I recommend that you journal
about occasions that you
feel you can improve on but, also, occasions that you
feel good about; ones that you
felt great
about as a parent.»