Nothing will destroy a habit you want more than
feeling emotional punishment when you do it.
Not exact matches
If you are of the «lucky» sort where these existential rewards and
punishments coincide with
emotional states, you might simultaneously
feel guilty and proud, though it's important to note that these emotions are not necessary for you to recognize the existential reward and
punishment for what they are.
He can not distinguish retribution from revenge, viewing all
punishment merely as an
emotional venting which makes people
feel better.
Punishment is reactive and counter-productive because makes children
feel powerless and disconnected and drains their already low
emotional cup.
That's one of the reasons that
punishment actually leads to more misbehavior — those
feelings keep bubbling up out of the
emotional backpack looking for healing, and your child lashes out because the emotions
feel so scary.
And considering that children learn more from what parents model, the skills that parents are teaching when they spank, issue timeouts, or use other
punishments is to
feel anxious and afraid, to expect physical or
emotional pain when they approach a behavior boundary, and to react to
feeling angry by controlling and coercing others.