Everyone seems so obsessed about not making mothers
feeling guilty about formula feeding as opposed to those who want to breastfeed but are undermined by free formula.
Now my babies aren't really babies anymore and, looking back, I shake my head at my former self for ever wasting any time
feeling guilty about formula feeding my boys.
I didn't
feel guilty about formula feeding, using disposable diapers, etc..
Not exact matches
So I just don't get the «too much pressure to breastfeed» when all around me are images of bottles, ads for
formula telling me a happy feeding makes a happy mom, bottlefeeding moms, moms and doctors and nurses telling new moms that
formula is «just as good» and «not to
feel guilty», women getting «the look» for nursing in public, or
feeling weird
about doing it (I sure did)-- to me, any pressure out there is NOT to breastfeed, or do it as little as possible (not if it's not immediately easy or you don't love every minute, not past 6 mos, not in public, not around male relatives and friends, not around children, not if you ever want to go out alone sometime...)
Women don't seek out the support that is there because they're afraid that if they ultimately decide to
formula - feed they will be made to
feel guilty about not trying harder.
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feel sooooooooooo
guilty about putting her on
formula.
Not only do I NOT
feel guilty about not breastfeeding because he is getting such a nutrient rich
formula, but I can depend on something to make my life easier when his crying is just too much to bare!
It also seems disturbingly like people would rather ignore dying babies than «
feel guilty»
about their
formula use.
Absolutely no one can make me
feel guilty about any of the decisions I made
about giving my children
formula, from medical necessity to my personal preference.
I had pumped earlier that day and had some breast milk stored already that we could alternate with
formula as my son transitioned into bottle feeding, so I
felt less
guilty (still plenty
guilty though)
about giving up.
Somehow the thinking seems to be that if we don't talk
about it, mothers who apparently «choose» not to breastfeed will not
feel guilty,, and healthworkers who don't know how to help mothers breastfeed can continue to suggest
formula - feeding as an easier alternative.
I'm already
feeling guilty about whether my milk supply will last and whether I'll eventually have to switch completely to
formula.
I don't
feel guilty about using
formula or disposable diapers either.
Are they making money by convincing you to not
feel guilty about using
formula?
Also, what
about the mothers who need to give
formula for medical reasons but
feel guilty anyway?
I have no issues with
formula so I don't know why I
feel so
guilty about not pumping any more?
Why do mom's have to
feel so
guilty about using
formula??
On the other hand, my sister's experience in the UK, which very much backs the «breast is best» meant that when BF didn't work out for her she was left
feeling really
guilty and quite ignorant
about how to
formula feed her baby.
It's easy to
feel guilty about opting for
formula when breastfeeding is presented as not only the best method, but far, far superior to
formula feeding.
I
felt guilty about that in itself but on a deeper level I
felt guilty because I struggled so much with the breastfeeding that I was glad she wanted the
formula so I could rest.
They nonchalantly said things like, «breast is best,» which made me
feel super
guilty about having to use
formula.
Overall great article, but you can't real soothe a mom who
feels guilty about feeding her child
formula when you still use the phrase «breast is best.»
When things get hard (and they will), or if breastfeeding doesn't end up being healthy for you or your baby, it's OK to supplement or to switch to
formula and you shouldn't
feel guilty about it.
The guilt issue is most pronounced with the formulabreastfeeding debate, where health professionals and public health bodies hesitate to give mothers accurate information
about formula risks (with a lot of «support» from
formula companies), so they won't
feel «
guilty» if they decide to
formula feed.
«Indoor» and «Weight Loss»
formulas tend to be higher in carbohydrates because carbs allow the «person» to feed a larger portion of food to their cat, and avoid
feeling guilty about reduced amounts of food.