Children very often feel responsible for their parent's separation, this can lead to
feelings of guilt as well as a belief that they can bring you back together.
So I'm painting myself as an underdog to assuage
my feelings of guilt as I «borrow» an investment idea from my favorite value investor, Seth Klarman.
His camera follows the parents as they go through the motions of mounting a search, and dealing with their varying
feelings of guilt as the pressure mounts.
Think of his killing of Peter for shooting the woman and then
his feeling of guilt as he tried to connect with Peter's two families.
Not exact matches
I actually
felt pangs
of guilt over not liking some updates,
as though the absence
of my particular Like would translate
as a disapproval or a withholding
of affection.
According to a recent survey by CareerBuilder, nearly three - quarters
of workers go into the office when they
feel sick, citing pressure or
guilt as the main factor.
Slip - ups will occur, but instead
of feeling frustrated or riddled with
guilt — welcome it
as a chance to reinvent your work regime and get to know thyself.
The decision for WeightWatchers.com to use freedom
as an emotion is a very clever one,
as it would be easy — and perhaps too obvious — to incite a
feeling of guilt or sexiness in order to pitch a weight loss product.
Psychopathy is broadly defined
as a lack
of empathy or
feeling for others, an inability to
feel guilt, and an ability to manipulate through charm.
Using work
as a coping mechanism for managing
guilt, anxiety, depression, and / or
feelings of helplessness.
wow, just peaked at this blog to find this gem,
as a church raised kiddy I only have to be within range
of a hymn book or pew to start to
feel that creeping
guilt, once infected it stays in the system like a STD, it's also deadly.
Then I started to experience many
feelings of guilt, doubt, frustration, all
as a result
of my dissatisfaction with my own «spiritual walk».
As Anton LaVey explained in his classic work The Satanic Bible, Man — using his brain — invented all the Gods, doing so because many
of our species can not accept or control their personal egos,
feeling compelled to conjure up one or a multiplicity
of characters who can act without hindrance or
guilt upon whims and desires.
And yet over the course
of writing my blog, I have found that vast numbers
of people struggle with fear,
guilt, shame, and all sorts
of terrible thoughts about God and others, and
as I have learned more, I find that many
of these
feelings come from a faulty view
of God.
After a half - dozen sessions, the assessment pinpointed these behavior difficulties which became the goals
of therapy — her unassertiveness; her inability to express her
feelings, which the therapist saw
as leading to a build - up
of anger, resentment, and
guilt (about her anger); the fact that she had never experienced orgasm; and her low opinion
of
A religion responds to basic human anxieties, such
as feelings of guilt.
As to the «obscene hubris»
of professors who imagine that they can avoid
feelings of guilt, I am not sure who Dr. Breen is referring to.
If the pastor has a keen awareness
of what we have come to regard
as the interpersonal hurt
of his patient; knows the desperate and yet fatal need
of the patient to evade further pain, no matter by what means, and often by striking out and hurting loved ones;
feels something
of the almost overwhelming and intolerable anxiety the patient experiences; is not too shaken by the terror evoked through what Kierkegaard expressed
as «shut - up - ness unfreely revealed»; and can accept the consequent intense
feelings of guilt and shame which isolate the patient from himself, from others and from God, then his ministry has within it the necessary element for a supportive and creative experience for the patient.
Because he is a religious authority figure, people spontaneously project on him a rich variety
of associations from their early life, including powerful
feelings about such matters
as God, heaven, hell, sex, parents, Sunday school, death, sin, and
guilt.
Emotional abuse --- religious concepts such
as sin, hell, cause
feelings of guilt, shame, fear, and other types
of emotional «baggage» which can scar the psyche for life.
Not long ago I corresponded with him about his intent in using the phrase, and was confirmed in my judgment that he only meant to say that ministers should be
as ready
of access to persons burdened with
guilt and other negative
feelings as are Roman Catholic priests.
The growth counselor's function is to help such persons
as they work through their resistance to bury a dead relationship; uncouple without infighting so
as to avoid further hurt to each other and to their children; agree on a plan for the children that will be best for the children's mental health; work through the ambivalent
feelings that usually accompany divorce —
guilt, rage, release, resentment, failure, joy, loss — so that each person's infected grief wound can heal; discover what each contributed to the disintegration
of their relationship; learn the relationship - building and love - nurturing skills which each will need either to enjoy creative singlehood or to establish a better marriage.
The
guilt I
feel has never gone away to how I allowed myself to go down the road
of adultery where I was named
as the woman he committed adultery with.
The therapist accepts the troubled neighbor in the midst
of neurotic
guilt feelings and compulsions, not on the narrow assumption that the neighbor is just privately acceptable by the therapist
as a friendly human being, but on the much more basic assumption that every person,
as human being, is accepted by being itself.
We
feel just
as righteous when we live up to our own maternal standards
of perfection, just
as guilt - ridden when we don't.
By listening in depth to what each person is
feeling as well
as saying, and by responding with warmth and understanding, the counselor helps them drain off the paralyzing pressure
of resentment and
guilt.
(14) Growth in the ability to cope constructively can occur in supportive relationships
as the counselor or the support group helps persons gratify their dependency needs; drain off powerful, ego - paralyzing
feelings (e.g.,
guilt, failure, anxiety); review their situation more objectively; and plan and implement realistic ways
of coping constructively with their situation.
Out
of his personal struggles with psychosis and many years» experience
as a hospital chaplain, Anton Boisen concluded that the most damaging
feelings in mental illness are the sense
of awful isolation and the
feeling of unpardonable
guilt.
Each time the alcoholic tried to express his deep
feelings of guilt and despair, the pastor pointed out that things weren't
as bad
as he seemed to think.
But
as a general pattern this seems to me a product
of romanticism, taking with insufficient seriousness the «materialism
of Christianity,»
as William Temple called it, and quite likely to produce the wrong kind
of guilt feelings in competent young people who are in or who are considering the ministry —
as if this activity were not worthy
of economic support.
Dr. Nicholas Cummings, a former president
of the American Psychological Association, stated, «In my twenty years at Kaiser Permanente Health Maintenance Organization, 67 percent
of the homosexuals who sought help from therapists for issues such
as «the transient nature
of relationships, disgust or
guilt feelings about promiscuity, fear
of disease, (and) a wish to have a traditional family» experienced various levels
of success obtaining their goals.
Perhaps by acknowledging them and understanding them better, we can reduce our sense
of isolation and
guilt and prevent these
feelings from festering into a basically destructive relationship — not only for the clergy spouses but for all members
of a parsonage family, and for the church
as a whole.
Speaking
of tough conversations, if you find yourself experiencing those awkward
feels around one
of your old friends, or maybe you're
feeling overwhelmed with
guilt because
of your «poor performance»
as a friend, talk it out with whomever you need to.
The Golden Rule should be objective rather than subjective and must be applied to all and not to be used
as a tool to single out and to inject
feeling of guilt to good people.
Yes, Christians can suffer from it,
as they are imperfect people like anyone, however I do believe that they have a «Way» out — and that is looking up (to Jesus) and not inward, which is what so much
of depression is...
feelings of worthlessness, or excessive
guilt.
Anyone who even thinks about suicide typically
feels deeply ashamed, but Christians in this situation have even more
guilt heaped upon them due to the way suicide is usually treated
as the gravest
of sins.
Christine, are you sure you are not confusing a normal
feeling of conscience induced
guilt (a good thing normally) with the abusive process
of using shame
as a means
of control?
This facade
of Christianity gave a veneer
of legitimacy to his hatred and allowed him to focus Germany's discontent on a scapegoat while simultaenously absolving the citizenry
of guilt by letting them rationalize it
as God's will: «My
feelings as a Christian points me to my Lord and Savior
as a fighter.
got a lot
of sensitive people here, likely doing
as much wrong
as they can, and
feeling subconscious
guilt because someone's pointing it out..
Stress free
as I freely attend a church now without the baggage
of a position and if I don't
feel like going, like this morning, I stay in and get the rest that I need without any hint
of guilt.
Debriefing revealed that many
of the participants had become aware
of race - related
feelings — shock, fear, expectation
of rejection, vulnerability, confusion, inferiority
as a Black, relief at being White again, and
guilt about these responses.5 This group was relatively free
of conscious prejudices and was dedicated to racial justice.
She laments that prochoice advocates see the woman who suffers «
guilt and despair to be out
of touch with her own needs, either deficient in feminist consciousness or victimized by Right - to - Life propaganda»; prolife advocates perceive the woman who displays no
feelings as «inhuman and insensitive or
as a victim
of a culture that permits her to be indifferent to the value
of life and provides her with no other options.»
Further, I suggest that the
guilt might sometimes be
felt by AE2 when it forms a contrast which includes the crime - committing decision
of AE1
as well
as the publicly observable consequences, if any, and finally, the goal
of continuing to achieve a moral equilibrium in an ordered society.
You may not
feel any
of this applies to you but there are many people who know
guilt and who are very aware
of their sinfulness; having hurt others, having used violence, having broken families through drug abuse, sexual abuseâ $ ¦ I could go on, not just big sins but lots
of destructive small sins
as well.
The powerful
feelings of conflict, loneliness,
guilt, hope, passion, rage that came out «in living color,»
as one youth commented, opened the doors to honest, open sharing.
As a woman I
feel no
guilt taking care
of myself with birth control, enjoying my husband or talking about «things» with him.
Churches have had too little concern for understanding why people behave
as they do and have been most relentless in their condemnation
of acts contrary to social standards, with the result that many have responded with intense
guilt feelings.
When taken literally, this has produced a plethora
of neurotic
guilt -
feelings by making the «wandering eye»
as reprehensible
as adultery.
They would be valid in so far
as they authentically expressed man's
feelings, hopes and fears, or his experiences
of guilt, reconciliation and liberation from anxiety.
Those tomatoes weren't
as good
as they would have been in August, but I know that's partly because
of the
guilt I
felt eating them.