I told her that if I had known that birth is about so much more than just «getting the baby out,» that if I had known that I would be processing and working through
my feelings about that birth experience for the rest of my life, then I would never have been so flippant, so unattached and uninvolved, so dangerously naive in my preparation for my daughter's birth.
This may sound counter-intuitive, but women who used epidural pain relief have less positive
feelings about their birth experience than women who use no medical pain relief.7, 8 No matter what methods of pain relief a woman used, low levels of pain have not been found to be associated with high levels of enjoyment during labor.9 So what matters for a good birth experience?
So how
you FEEL about your birth experience is indeed a very big deal.
Not exact matches
Education during pregnancy rarely has anything serious to do with breastfeeding, and since breastfeeding is perceived by most pre-parenthood women to be a natural, instinctive thing instead of a learned behavior (on both mom & baby's part) if it doesn't go absolutely perfectly from the first moments they may
feel something is wrong with THEM and clam up
about it while quietly giving the baby the hospital - offered bottle along with the bag of formula samples they give out «just in case» even if you explicitly tell them you're breastfeeding (which was my
experience with my firstborn in 2004 and one of the many highly informed reasons I chose to
birth my next two at home).
Having continuous, one - on - one support from a knowledgeable, compassionate and
experienced support person has been empirically shown to have significant impacts on how women
feel about their
births for decades after.
I worked through my
feelings about my first
birth experience by writing
about it and talking through it with my partner, but I still wanted to know what childbirth was like without drugs.
Please
feel free to share your story
about what you did during your pregnancy /
birth, which contributed to your positive
birth experience, eg.
From her unexpected
birth experience she quickly learned that life with twins would prove to be chaotic, and being knowledgeable
about different equipment, processes, and milestones was one way to
feel in control.
So I did it probably for ten, twelve sessions, and to me, the biggest benefit was just keeping me really balanced throughout the pregnancy, with the twin pregnancy I just
felt really large and things got pretty uncomfortable towards the end, so I think for me the prenatal yoga helped me just stay balanced and also really aware of my body, and I think that helped with the
birth experience, helping me be aware of my position and my posture, so I did an unmedicated labor with my twins as well, so I could just really think
about if I am sitting up, opening my pelvis, and be aware of that.
How does a mama who has
experienced everything
about mommying — pregnancy,
birth, mothering — with one child not
feel guilt
about sharing such sacredness with another?
These benefits include but are not limited to the power of the human touch and presence, of being surrounded by supportive people of a family's own choosing, security in birthing in a familiar and comfortable environment of home,
feeling less inhibited in expressing unique responses to labor (such as making sounds, moving freely, adopting positions of comfort, being intimate with her partner, nursing a toddler, eating and drinking as needed and desired, expressing or practicing individual cultural, value and faith based rituals that enhance coping)-- all of which can lead to easier labors and
births, not having to make a decision
about when to go to the hospital during labor (going too early can slow progress and increase use of the cascade of risky interventions, while going too late can be intensely uncomfortable or even lead to a risky unplanned
birth en route), being able to choose how and when to include children (who are making their own adjustments and are less challenged by a lengthy absence of their parents and excessive interruptions of family routines), enabling uninterrupted family boding and breastfeeding, huge cost savings for insurance companies and those without insurance, and increasing the likelihood of having a deeply empowering and profoundly positive, life changing pregnancy and
birth experience.
I believe that one's
birth experience shapes how they
feel about themselves in the future.
I agree with everything Stacy says above, and question how you interpret simple education, and advocacy for the poor baby who probably didn't enjoy HIS
birth experience, as «ladies who
feel so negative
about birth.»
If you are
experiencing symptoms after the
birth of your baby, or if you are concerned
about the way you are
feeling, it is important that you let your healthcare provider know how you are
feeling.
If you
feel strongly
about having the opportunity to
experience skin - to - skin contact right after
birth, be sure to discuss this with your health care providers beforehand.
According to Blumenfeld, any mother who has
experienced a traumatic
birth should seek help from a licensed professional therapist and / or a support group — talking
about your
experience and
feeling less alone is integral to the healing process.
We are discovering increasingly more
about what they
experience before
birth, how they
feel during
birth, and what kind of
birth and babyhood empowers them to become winners in life.
However,
birth grandparents can find themselves in a difficult position: wanting to support their child to make a decision they
feel good
about; while at the same time
experiencing strong
feelings about the choices their child is facing.
At Marley & Moo ™ Maternity we believe that every women deserves to look back at her
birth day and
feel good
about her
experience.
And I would bet that the hospital horror stories are more to do with the womens «
feelings»
about her
birth experience rather than the actual damaged / dead babies from the home
birth horror stories.
When labor time came, I was able to make fully informed decisions
about my
birth and
felt like I was the one in control of my
experience, rather than a patient whose baby was «being delivered.»
Research shows that families who
feel involved in their
birth process as active decision - makers talk
about their
births as «good ``; families who
feel steam - rolled or ignored in the decision - making process report
feeling more trauma
about their
birth experiences.
I've long since worked through the emotions and
feelings about my own
birth experiences.
I'm pretty vocal
about my difficulties with hyperemesis during both pregnancies, so why not be vocal
about my two very different
birth experiences, especially if it helps unveil some of the confusion so many moms
feel leading up to delivery day.
Lounging in a warm tub or bubbling Jacuzzi is a relaxing,
feel - good
experience — and, for many women, that doesn't change when you're
about to give
birth.
I personally have done at
about 350 to 400 water
births myself so I
feel very
experienced and qualified to answer your questions.
How we
feel about our
experience of pregnancy and
birth is important.
Not talking
about your
birth experience means that your emotions and
feelings can fester and grow and get to a point where they can consume your life.
We allow a safe place for our new parents to talk, laugh, cry, question, and explore their thoughts and
feelings about their
birth and how their
experience might shape them as new parents.
Birth Experience: Moms often feel a little defensive about their birth choices because everyone seems to have an opinion abou
Birth Experience: Moms often
feel a little defensive
about their
birth choices because everyone seems to have an opinion abou
birth choices because everyone seems to have an opinion
about it.
After the
experience of being the labouring mama, and not the labour and delivery RN, all the pieces connected and I
felt inspired
about birth!
What do I need to do / prepare / heal / let go of to
feel that however the
birth experience may go, I will
feel at peace and confident
about my
experience and my decisions?
You will learn
about what is happening to you physically and emotionally during labor and
birth - changes that you have never
experienced before, how to
feel confident, empowered and tap into your own strength, and capacities as a women, and to really love your
experience.
I wish I would have saw this in Aug. then just maybe I would not
feel so sad now everytime I hear some one talk
about there natural
birth experience.
I now
felt outraged on how women and babies were treated in a lot of settings, and passionate
about doing my part to enable mamas and babies to
birth without the upsetting
experiences and unneccesary interventions that result in real trauma.
More specifically, compared with women with no early neonatal signs of breastfeeding difficulty, we found that women who had negative
feelings about breastfeeding and reported severe pain while nursing soon after
birth were more likely to
experience postpartum depression at 2 months.
After giving
birth,
about 70 - 80 % of women
experience an episode of baby blues,
feelings of depression, anger, anxiety and guilt lasting for several days.
I create a safe space for my clients where they can
feel safe exploring sexual
experiences — sexual harassment and abuse but also trauma from
birth injuries, IUDs, STDs and many other past
experiences — and there are a few things that I really do wish women would stop believing
about sex.
Feel free to share
about your
experience with different
birth control methods in the comments!
Although we didn't get the home
birth we had initially planned, we
felt very excited
about the whole
experience.
I had to grieve that my
birth didn't go as planned and no mom should
feel guilty
about their unique
experience.
Likewise, after giving
birth, you may
feel a similar instinct to talk
about your
birth story and
experience.
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About Blog Our hope for all our clients is to
feel empowered by their
birth experience, so they and their new family can get off to the healthiest start possible!
Regina Sask Canada
About Blog Our hope for all our clients is to
feel empowered by their
birth experience, so they and their new family can get off to the healthiest start possible!
However,
birth grandparents can find themselves in a difficult position: wanting to support their child to make a decision they
feel good
about; while at the same time
experiencing strong
feelings about the choices their child is facing.