LETICIA: I think also... You know for me, I breastfed my first two relatively easily and I don't think I've ever... I never
felt judgmental of moms who bottle - fed, but it was more like I just didn't understand.
Your reply to
me felt judgmental, but I'll attribute that as well to my poor wording in the previous post.
I could also link to several sites that back up any and all of those choices, but none of that will help you when you think
you feel a judgmental eye from a fellow mom while you shake up your babies» formula while out to lunch.
While the nurses have the best intentions, their attempt to make a new mom «understand» can
feel judgmental — the first judgment of many to come.
The messages we receive from well meaning family members or media can, at times,
feel judgmental and harmful.
If you ever catch
yourself feeling judgmental, sing this little song to the tune of Sousa's «Stars and Stripes Forever»
Not exact matches
And then there's the general fear we all
feel about being «
judgmental.»
Often times I am guilty of pointing my finger and showing
judgmental anger at them as I
feel they would to me.
A historian, to be sure, must
feel some diffidence in offering such confident, perhaps
judgmental assertions about a project that must be carried out by others — by theologians.
I don't have any scripture that tells me those people in Sandy Hook weren't pious enough and DESERVED their fate — so I can
feel profound compassion for them, without any need for being
judgmental.
I
feel misunderstood that you've interpreted what I have written as preachy and
judgmental.
Whilst helping me, if I
felt an attitude of condemnation and a
judgmental spirit towards me by you, as well as a prideful spirit because of who I am attracted to, it would be in my best interest to not have you in my life (though forgive you).
Someone once told me that he didn't
feel especially
judgmental of the Hutus who killed the Tutsis in the Rwandan genocide, because the people who committed the atrocities were «no different than you in me.»
I don't know what surprised me more when reviewing the Barna survey: learning 87 percent of outsiders consider Christians
judgmental, or that 52 percent of churchgoers
feel the same way.
Thus, on his view, the phrase «conceptual prehension» is «entirely neutral, devoid of all suggestiveness» (PR 49), and clearly part of the suggestiveness that he wants to avoid is the identification of his notion of conceptual
feelings with either, say, a Cartesian or Kantian model of
judgmental, representational thinking.
Both kinds of
feelings are pre-reflectively meaningful because, for Whitehead, reflective,
judgmental consciousness is only one «subjective form» of
feelings, which is possibly present in the final phase of some concrescences.
This is common for any
judgmental society or person, as long as they use their religious background and beliefs to justify taking away rights, implementing rules to defame groups of other people they
feel are not of their group's «norm.»
Some people will always
feel guilt no matter what... we must continue to advocate but not be
judgmental which does nothing to further a good cause.
Outside of that, she said she just had to develop a thick skin because she was doing what
felt right to her, what was good for us, and wasn't going to let the opinions of some
judgmental people change that.
I used to be exactly the same way:
judgmental of those who drank coffee and «had» to have a cup in the mornings to
feel functional.
At first, I
felt a kind of
judgmental reaction to this («I'd have let him go!»)
I
felt the exact same way while I was watching the show, that the reporters were asking
judgmental questions, rather than being provocative.
I tried not to be
judgmental and think of what I witnessed as repulsive, and this blog entry has helped subside those
feelings I
felt.
But amidst the plethora of substantial, legitimate information, there is also a cacophony of foreboding,
judgmental voices: «lactivist» blogs that compare formula feeding to child abuse; public message boards with calls to action - «I automatically
feel sorry for the baby sitting in the cart in the formula aisle as their parent loads up on cans of the stuff.
Seriously, what is it about feeding that makes so many of us turn into
judgmental, thoughtless people who think it's ok to make others
feel rubbish through the unnecessary hurt they hurl from their laptop keyboards?
Having information laughing out and over into your baby haze mind is no fun and new parents do not forget how unsupportive and
judgmental that
felt.
Most people don't know about the hard parts of nursing — the chapped nipples, swollen breasts, and
feeling of having no time for yourself (and, of course, the
judgmental eyes when you need to nurse in public.)
When you use negative and
judgmental language, it makes parents
feel badly about letting their children eat at school, even if they can't afford to pack a meal from home.
We must NEVER appear opinionated or passionate... because of course if we say ANYTHING that is not close to what that particular mother is experience or
feeling then we are being
judgmental bitches.
Due to a few
judgmental comments and watching how other moms treated each other, I
felt like I was in a race.
I used to
feel more
judgmental about breast vs bottle, and now I really don't care that much.
Don't stop being a lactavist because you are afraid of hurting people's
feelings or being called, «
judgmental».
But you choosing to write from such a
judgmental point of view doesn't make me
feel good.
Now, I understand this sounds rude and
judgmental, but the gut
feeling you have when you know you would instantly connect with someone sometimes tell you that you wouldn't get along with someone else, either.
I think a lot of those
feelings came from the push that «breast is best» and just how
judgmental other moms can be.
The two that do try it will spit it out before you can cut a piece for yourself and you will
feel annoyed at their immature and
judgmental pallet.
And if your child
feels shy and isn't ready, be supportive — not
judgmental — and keep trying again.
This has definitely been the area in which I
feel most judged and ironically seem to have become most
judgmental!
Whenit comes to others, we should not be
judgmental or at least give the benefit of the doubt, while we should try to respect other
feelings and yet meet the needs of our kids
When I made counter-culture lifestyle decisions before we had our son (who is now 2 1/2), I
felt that people were less
judgmental because my husband and I were only «ruining» our own lives.
In general, although it
feels counterintuitive, if parents are
feeling judged or
judgmental, it is actually beneficial move towards one's partner's style somewhat.
We all know how «Internet trolls» like to swoop in and make
judgmental comments, which could cause unpleasant emotions and
feelings when associated with your birth.
You can tell that Ana has a genuine passion for this work and is committed to seeing moms succeed at breastfeeding without being
judgmental if a mother
feels like she wants to stop (believe me, I wanted to quit many times).
I didn't like putting myself in awkward situations; I didn't like pretending not to notice someone's raised eyebrows or hear their
judgmental whispers; I didn't like
feeling uncomfortable because someone else couldn't see my breasts as anything other than sexual.
I like to think that maybe it is just innocent small talk, but far too often, it
feels quite
judgmental — like the asker is gauging how lazy I am by my response, like they must think there is an acceptable answer and other answers will be looked down upon.
The
Judgmental Listener, who doesn't mean to be, but her 20/20 hindsight often leaves the teller
feeling that she should have made better choices.
If the person is a close friend or family and his
judgmental comments are hurting your
feelings - let him know.
Hi Whitney, My statement about characteristics of moms that tend to breastfeed longer wasn't meant to be
judgmental at all, so I'm sorry that it
felt that way to you.
I wrote to you several months ago after reading an earlier article on BPD [«Dangerous Liaisons,» by Ophelia Austin - Small, November / December 2009], indicating that I
felt that article was flawed,
judgmental and not up to the scientific standards that I have come to expect from your magazine.
Accept your
feelings but not the
judgmental thoughts behind them.