We are not fighting villains, we are
fighting about laundry or stuff like that.
Your pattern might be: I'm angry with my partner for (fill in this blank with something like, I'm feeling ignored in the relationship), so I'm going to pick a fight about (fill in the blank here with something completely unrelated, such as not putting the laundry in the dryer), your partner engages in this unrelated argument, and you take this as an opportunity to
fight about the laundry, but also throw in a piece about feeling ignored.
Not exact matches
What I am not so happy
about is waking up extra early, doing more
laundry,
fighting to get 4 kids ready each morning, and most of all
fighting the traffic in our Chicago commute.
«
Fighting about who pays the bills, cleans, does lawn work or
laundry, is more
about feeling appreciated and getting credit than doing the actual task,» says Melissa Cohen, LCSW, a couples counselor in private practice in Westfield, NJ.
Before you pick a
fight with your partner
about the
laundry, unmade bed, or what to eat for dinner, ask yourself — in the grand scheme of my relationship how much does this really matter?
Unless your relationship roles are as clearly defined as Betty and Don Draper's in Mad Men, you need to sit down and sort out who's in charge of
laundry, dirty dishes, taking the dog out, etc. «I had a couple who
fought about dirty dishes like you have no idea,» recalls Greer.