The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Formost Relationship Expert - by John Gottman, PhD Also see www.gottmaninstitute.org Dr. Gottman has written numerous books on his research
findings on marriage, and this is the best.
We find on these marriage counseling retreats that many relationship difficulties have these kinds of deep roots underneath their problematic behaviors.
Not exact matches
If you're really serious about
finding someone to marry right now, you should be using Match.com or something, where you can target based
on very specific criteria, and these are other people who are paid and committed to settling down right now, so if
marriage in the next 18 months is your goal, then Match.com is the product for you.
One American study
found that divorced respondents experienced a 77 % average drop in wealth, while their married counterparts saw their wealth increase,
on average, by 16 % for every year of their
marriage.
A study from 2009 now getting buzz
on the blogosphere explored the role
marriage plays in the lesbian wage premium, and
found that women who don't expect to be part of a traditional family spend more time investing in labour participation through
on - the - job training and working longer hours than household skills.
In fact, after a short - lived
marriage, Rolwing
found herself jobless and penniless, writing Harry Potter
on napkins at various cafes in Edinburgh, Scotland with her daughter Jessica by her side.
But before splitting after 21 months of
marriage, Cuoco
found the time to commemorate her wedding day by tattooing the date in Roman numerals
on her back.
If I point to my great - uncle's diary and say that the answer
on gay
marriage can be
found in his private opinion
on the matter, I would be laughed at.
Of course, the reason is fairly clear for those (I'm one) who understand
marriage as a conjugal partnershp, i.e., a multi-level (and in that sense comprehensive) union of husband and wife
founded on the biological («one - flesh») communion made possible by the sexual - reproductive complementarity of spouses.
Along the way, Akerlof
found a strong connection between the diminishment of
marriage on the one hand and the rise in poverty and social pathology
on the other.
The document firmly rejects gay
marriage, for instance, but also said Catholics leaders, «are trying to
find a balance between the Church's teaching
on the family and a respectful, non-judgmental attitude towards people living in such unions.»
The shift in our understanding of sex from a sacramental and life - changing encounter to the thing you do with your friends when you're bored has made all of our relationships shallower and made each of us less capable of the profound gift of self
on which
marriage is
founded.
While the law of our land at this time does not recognize plural
marriages, its only because the Country was
founded on CHRISTIAN principles which says that it is wrong to commit adultery.
But after so many years of touring and pouring everything they had into their music, the pair suddenly
found that their
marriage was deteriorating and
on the verge of breaking.
Some say
marriage is a dissolving institution, just par for the course in this sea of modernity we're swimming in, and still others seem to hold it
on an impossibly high pedestal, as though one's life doesn't begin until one's wedding day: when you
find your soulmate, your «other half,» you will have
found your ultimate fulfillment, the one who will dispel your loneliness forever.
I'm going to say pro-life and anti-gay
marriage because I believe you'd be hard - pressed to
find an atheist who believes it is okay to deny women control over their own reproductive health and the ability to decide whether or not to carry a pregnancy to term or, likewise, who believes it's okay to deny
marriage to a couple based only
on gender orientation.
misogyny, mental and emotional abuse all hidden behind a new
found liberalism and feminism because the times they are a changin», jumping
on the same sex
marriage band wagon because its the hot new ride in town, and you just might get to be relevant again... these people are very cunning and smart and they will use anything (theology, controversy, sensationalism) and anyone to get ahead.
Before one should condemn the Christian's view of
marriage, one should read the bible and
find out how God and Christ instructed us
on marriage.
On a question about premarital sexual intercourse, I
found that I was generally giving higher grades to students who took the position that for Christians sexual intimacy is to be entered upon only after
marriage.
CNN: Survey: Catholics divided
on political issues, as adherent numbers decline As important as the Catholic vote is in the 2012 election, a new survey
finds that the group is far from monolithic and is not largely focused
on the issues that get a lot of attention from church leaders — abortion and gay
marriage.
De Rougemont pays little attention to the social arrangements in feudal society which brutalized human
marriage by
founding it
on political and economic convenience.
It's not for someone looking for a casual read, but I've
found it to be one of the most enlightening and convincing takes
on how
marriage becomes sacramental through the expression of erotic love over time.
The chapter headed «Where psychiatry and Catholicism agree» is similarly enlightening, as the Church can
find confirmation in secular science for her teachings
on marriage and family life, and the negative impact of parental separation and divorce.
Washington (CNN)-- As important as the Catholic vote is in the 2012 election, a new survey
finds that the group is far from monolithic and is not largely focused
on the issues that get a lot of attention from church leaders — abortion and gay
marriage.
Therefore, applying the heart of the gospel to the contemporary challenges to
marriage and the family must by
founded on restoring men and women to true friendship with God by immersing them in the truths he has revealed.
In my own pastoral counseling experiences, I have
found that most divorcing couples are realistic enough not to want superficial, cheap attempts
on the counselor's part to heal their wounds lightly by telling them, in effect, that their divorce and their prior
marriage are unimportant.
It's rare to
find a televised
marriage in which the show creators seem to have any idea how a real relationship ought to work, and the toll that's taken
on society has, perhaps, yet to be fully understood.
«When I think all the evil in the world, from terrorism, to disease, to famine, I
find it horrifying that a man with the Pope's incredible power and influence can only focus
on something as minor as gay
marriage,» artist Kevin Sharkey, 47, told the website ClickLiverpool.com
As psychiatrist Lawrence Kubie says, «A major source of unhappiness between husband and wife is to be
found in the discrepancies between their conscious and unconscious demands
on each other and
on the
marriage, as these are expressed first in the choosing of a mate and then in the subsequent evolution of their relationship.»
The
marriage was built
on lies and sand and I
found myself in a place where I knew I had disobeyed God and was L - O - S - T.
It would be hard to
find more divisive, jabbing rhetoric
on marriage than in these publications by self - described «
marriage nut» David Blankenhorn, the founder and director of the Institute for American Values, and the late historian Elizabeth Fox - Genovese, well known for her testy rebuff of feminism.
I
find it interesting that the day after you wrote about the evil treatment of ministers in the United Methodist Church who are in favor of
marriage equality in the church, you wrote this blog
on how women could affect equality within the church.
The premium placed
on marriage as the ideal site for lifelong love and childbearing by most of the world's major religious traditions, the social value attached to the wedding rite, and the support accorded a wide range of
marriage - friendly norms by most religious traditions all probably help to explain the religion -
marriage connection
found across much of the globe.
Instead, they set their sights
on a court fight with Proposition 8, whereby a majority of voting Californians had amended their state constitution to undo a judicial decision that had
found a never before seen right to gay
marriage.
On the cultural front, we are seeing what I call a «
marriage mindset» — where people value childbearing within
marriage as well as marital permanency —
find a more secure purchase among highly educated Americans than among less - educated Americans.
It would be hard to
find more divisive, jabbing rhetoric
on marriage than in these publications by self - described «
marriage nut» David Blankenhorn, the founder and...
The twin revolutions obliterated much more, but the double standard has reemerged in a harsher, crueler form: wreaking havoc
on beta men and
on beta women, too, who, as the declining
marriage rate indicates, have trouble
finding and securing long - term mates in a supply - saturated short - term sexual marketplace.
After a year of trying to work
on our
marriage I
found out that he was again talking to other women behind my back when his text messages accidently got sent to my email address.
Take a look at ten issues from that first year or two and you'll
find essays
on religious freedom, war and peace,
marriage and family, philosophical materialism, literary figures, and theological movements.
By contrast, Hawthorne
found in
marriage, family, work, and meditation
on history and religion a surer guide to relative wisdom and happiness.
Pretending that gay
marriage, with two committed adults raising children, is somehow going to damage the family unit is a fear that is not
founded on any sort of reality.
According to
findings of the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, more than half of those who took virginity pledges went
on to have sex within three years; 88 percent of them had sex before
marriage.
«We wouldn't see them when we go to Westminster to protest; when ten people had to sign [an open letter] to speak about the Church's stand
on same sex
marriage, to which some of us are today being persecuted, they were nowhere to be
found.
She
finds happiness in her third
marriage by rejecting the hierarchical, materialistic codes others have imposed
on her.
If the government was to step out of the
marriage business entirely and leave people to the same property and power of attorney rights that are already available to anybody now, as he suggests, people who previously held protections based
on their status of being married would soon
find out just how much more difficult it is to gain those rights outside of
marriage.
«We
found actually that among the Tea Party, rather than being libertarians, at least
on the issues of abortion and same - sex
marriage, they're actually social conservatives,» the survey's lead author, Robert Jones, said Tuesday.
The British Court of Appeal determined that her refusal amounted to discrimination and
found that she offended gay colleagues in the office with her refusal; in addition to that, in the court's judgment, Ladele's views
on marriage are not «a core part of her religion.»
But we should be confident that if we reflect more deeply
on deeper themes connected with the Gospel — creation, providence,
marriage, celibacy, sin, redemption, resurrection, etc. — we will
find the resources for understanding Paul's teaching
on homosexuality, even though Paul himself does much less than many of us would like to explain the reasons behind the prohibition.
If it is «our»
marriage,
founded on our own fleeting emotions and attachments, we will do with it pretty much as we please.
And for Aristotle, «same - sex
marriage» would be an absurdity because no state can be
founded or sustained
on its inescapably barren relations.