Those mothers or fathers for whom having their baby close and next to them means the most and those that can
follow through with avoiding all of the adverse factors presently know, and who breastfeed, will construct and enjoy the
safest possible
bedsharing environment.
I think it is
safe to say that you shouldn't
bedshare if your awareness is impaired in any way, but how many deaths could have been prevented if that recommendation was
followed, we don't know.
Also, although I intuitively felt that
bedsharing was totally natural and
safe, my husband very strongly believed that we should
follow the recommendations of the medical community and abstain from
bedsharing.
Subsequently, by virtue of defining that an adult and infant are unable to safely sleep on the same surface together, such as what occurs during
bedsharing, even when all known adverse
bedsharing risk factors are absent and
safe bedsharing practices involving breastfeeding mothers are
followed, an infant that dies while sharing a sleeping surface with his / her mother is labeled a SUID, and not SIDS.26 In this way the infant death statistics increasingly supplement the idea that
bedsharing is inherently and always hazardous and lend credence, artificially, to the belief that under no circumstance can a mother, breastfeeding or not, safely care for, or protect her infant if asleep together in a bed.27 The legitimacy of such a sweeping inference is highly problematic, we argue, in light of the fact that when careful and complete examination of death scenes, the results revealed that 99 % of
bedsharing deaths could be explained by the presence of at least one and usually multiple independent risk factors for SIDS such as maternal smoking, prone infant sleep, use of alcohol and / or drugs by the
bedsharing adults.28 Moreover, this new ideology is especially troubling because it leads to condemnations of
bedsharing parents that border on charges of being neglectful and / or abusive.