«The key thing is that
for avoidant individuals, the more problematic media that's used, the higher they're at risk for these negative outcomes.»
Not exact matches
For instance,
avoidant individuals tended to use humor and physical contact to attract potential dates, which might lead a potential date to believe that
avoidant individuals are more comfortable with closeness than they actually are.
Fortunately, having a partner who is more securely attached (less anxious) appears to mitigate the negative effect of attachment avoidance on responsiveness.4 The fact that
avoidant people responded the worst when their partner was high in attachment anxiety might be because anxious
individuals» yearning
for closeness and affirmation pushes away the
avoidant partner, resulting in less effective capitalization.
Part of the issue with perceiving others as non-responsive could be a self - fulfilling prophecy: perhaps
avoidant individuals share less personal information, making it hard
for their partners to respond well, which leads
avoidant people to see their partners as less responsive.
Avoidant individuals, such as your ex-girlfriend, tend to weather loss better than other attachment types (e.g., anxious
individuals who want to be close but always question how much their partner really loves them), as they have a higher threshold
for insecurity.
Reluctance to disclose inner thoughts and feelings, remaining guarded, and having desire
for personal control are all signs of
avoidant attachment.1, 2 Research shows that in adolescence and young adulthood,
avoidant individuals do not connect as deeply (they have less intimacy and emotional closeness) with friends and romantic partners as secure
individuals do, and this lack of connection largely results from less self - disclosure.
A partner's anger or frustration isn't fun
for anybody, but may be particularly hard on
avoidant individuals.
For comparative purposes, I could have included a description of an «
avoidant» infant to serve as an example of an
individual who rejects the closeness of others in intimate relationships as a result of an unresponsive caregiver.
For example, it has been observed that both attachment avoidance and anxiety orient attention away from negative social signals (Dewitte et al., 2007; Dewitte and De Houwer, 2008), whereas other reports indicate early vigilance in the perception of positive and negative facial expressions for both anxious and avoidant attached individuals (Niedenthal et al., 200
For example, it has been observed that both attachment avoidance and anxiety orient attention away from negative social signals (Dewitte et al., 2007; Dewitte and De Houwer, 2008), whereas other reports indicate early vigilance in the perception of positive and negative facial expressions
for both anxious and avoidant attached individuals (Niedenthal et al., 200
for both anxious and
avoidant attached
individuals (Niedenthal et al., 2002).
The idea of love is a game may help
avoidant individuals to keep partners at a distance whilst the obsessive features of Mania may be characteristic of anxious
individuals who struggle finding reciprocity
for the intense emotions they feel
for their partners.
Even though singles show a higher probability
for insecure attachment compared to coupled
individuals, inconsistencies have been published
for the second classification (anxious versus
avoidant).
For instance, there is evidence of
individual differences in expressing avoidance or hypervigilance with respect to attachment threats: fearful
avoidant individuals are in fact characterized by cognitive avoidance of all highly emotional stimuli (Dewitte et al., 2007).
Whereas
avoidant individuals were most likely single and not looking
for a partner or only
for a casual relationship (see also longitudinal Kirkpatrick and Hazan, 1994; Schindler et al., 2010); ambivalent / anxious attached adults were also most likely single but seeking a partner.
The ASQ includes five scales: (1) ASQ - F1, «Confidence in relationships»; higher scores in this subscale indicate a secure attachment (e.g., «I find it relatively easy to get close to other people»); (2) ASQ - F2, «Need
for approval» denotes both worried and fearful aspects of attachment, characterized by an
individual's need
for others» approval and acceptance (e.g., «It's important
for me to avoid doing things that others won't like»); (3) ASQ - F3: the subjects» anxious behavior in searching
for others, motivated by the necessity to fulfill dependency needs, is depicted by the subscale «Preoccupation with relationships»; it represents a central topic in the conceptualization of anxious / ambivalent attachment (e.g., «It's very important
for me to have a close relationship»); (4) ASQ - F4, «Discomfort with closeness» reflects an
avoidant attachment (e.g., «I prefer to keep to myself»), and (5) ASQ - F5 «Relationships as secondary» is typical of a dismissive style, in which subjects tend to emphasize achievements and independence, in order to protect themselves against hurt and vulnerability (e.g., «To ask
for help is to admit that you're a failure»).