And speaking as someone who's just moved into the next phase (separated five months but only just filed yesterday), even if there's no fighting going on, even if it's the most amicable and collaborative divorce anyone you know has ever seen... if you didn't want to get one and would give anything if the other person had just been able to take those first steps to
getting on the right path again and walk it together, then there's nothing about it that's going to feel «easy» no matter how you slice it.