But surely another reason is the widespread perception among church people that
gifts to church colleges are gifts to a generalized kind of «higher education» rather than a specific kind of «Christian higher education,» in which churches have some unique stake.
The teaching that men are
to be the «spiritual leaders» of their homes is found nowhere in Scripture, and yet I — along with far too many young evangelical women — spent hours upon hours fretting over this in
college, worrying I'd never find a guy who was more knowledgeable about the Bible than I, who was always more emotionally connected
to God than I, who was better at leading in the
church than I, and who consistently exhibited more faithfulness and wisdom than I. (In fact, under this paradigm, I came
to see many of my
gifts as liabilities, impediments
to settling down with a good «spiritual leader»!)
She has willingly and without complaint given up every entire weekend of her three years of
college to travel an hour from Seattle
to help out with
church and other needs, so she is truly deserving of a special
gift like this.