Among couples seeking a divorce, one third report that they did not
go to marriage counseling because their spouse was unwilling to go.
Sometimes, people agree to
go to marriage counseling because they believe that doing so will make it easier for them to tell their spouse they want a divorce.
He absolutely refuses to
go to marriage counseling because he claims a few of his male friends went and said that they were blamed for all the problems.
Not exact matches
I have seen too many
marriages destroyed
because the husband (or the wife)
goes to their cross-gender friend
to let off a little steam about their spouse,
to get a little support and
counsel from their friend.
For instance, Alicia came
to my office distraught
because she had finally convinced her husband Jared
to attend
marriage counseling and the sessions weren't
going well.
It does seem
to be targeted at a slightly older audience, if only
because it's about a group of couples who
go to an island resort
to participate in
marriage counseling.
This is great news,
because it is much more often the woman who is willing
to go to counseling or a
marriage education program, and it is much more often the woman who files for divorce if nothing gets better.
Another thing that people come in for other than couples
counseling and
marriage counseling is sometimes people come in by themselves who are in a committed relationship
because they want
to have a deeper understanding of what's
going on, perhaps learn strategies on their own.
Meanwhile, their spouse (in this case, you) get all hopeful
because you think you're
going to marriage counseling to actually work on your
marriage.
Finally, don't throw away the idea of
going to therapy just
because your husband is not willing
to go to marriage counseling with you.
For instance, Alicia came
to my office distraught
because she had finally convinced her husband Jared
to attend
marriage counseling and the sessions weren't
going well.
If one is
going for advice
to solve their problems in
marriage then the concept of
counseling is lost
because counseling is not advice giving.
Discernment
Counseling is appropriate when one or both partners are hesitant to commit to a couple or marriage counseling process because one or both of them are not sure they are ready to go forward in the rel
Counseling is appropriate when one or both partners are hesitant
to commit
to a couple or
marriage counseling process because one or both of them are not sure they are ready to go forward in the rel
counseling process
because one or both of them are not sure they are ready
to go forward in the relationship.
Traditional
marriage counseling tends
to be ineffective
because the counselor either expects both parties
to work on the relationship — rendering the leaning out spouse, the uncooperative one — or encourages the hopeful spouse
to just let
go of the
marriage — leaving that individual feeling undercut and angry.
when I asked why, he mentioned my husband is also under depression treatment and eventually we will end up divorce... I keep thinking this is how my husband had told the doctor so he just repeated what he said
to me... I suggested
to attend
marriage counseling together with my husband in Taiwan and he reject
to do so, for the reason of thinking I m» unstable»... I really feel helpless,
because I am not really that» depressed», but I feel I have been treated like a patient with mental illness... after readng your article, I feel more confident
to go back as I think we have
to face the crisis instead of avoiding it.
I can so relate
because I did the same thing in my
marriage and also
went to counseling, but that only made things worse in our case.
He still refuses
to go to marriage counseling even though my depression therapist has suggested it,
because he doesn't like talking
to strangers about his things.