Engaging in constructive, pro-relationship behaviors — like biting your tongue when your partner snaps at you, or discussing difficult issues in a calm and constructive manner — are
effortful acts that require
greater self -
control compared to more selfish or destructive behaviors.3 Unfortunately, self -
control is a limited resource that becomes depleted through use, making further acts of self -
control all the more difficult.4 Self -
control is like a muscle that can become fatigued over time, or a gas tank that is eventually emptied.