Other means of abuse are using the children to maintain control, such as threatening to take children away or using the children to relay messages to the other parent; using economic abuse such as not allowing one partner to know
about or have access to family income or giving an allowance and expecting receipts for all
purchases; using emotional abuse such as putting one partner down,
making them feel crazy or
making them feel
guilty for other's inappropriate behavior; using threats and coercion to
make one partner drop charges or do illegal acts.