You and I are on the same side and I agree with you pretty much, and after years of trying to have
honest productive conversations about the problem and solutions, I spent years doing the same with ridicule and shaming of denying delayalists.
We don't try to change the emotion, we just ask that everyone commits to a
productive and respectful
conversation even as they continue to feel the emotion (because lets be
honest, my team is only reproducing the exact same emotions that are felt when race
conversations happen randomly.