This series looked at some of the reasons someone stays with a partner like Perry including: thinking it would be better for the children to have their parents be together, belief that their partner can change, love and compassion for their partner, not wanting to
hurt their partner emotionally, and fear of what others would think if the relationship failed or the truth about the violence was known.
Not exact matches
Emotionally charged discussions can turn ugly in a heartbeat, and reassuring your
partner of his or her best qualities can buffer any
hurt feelings that might start to arise in either of you.
It is important for you to find a
partner, but not rushing into things and remembering to mentally step back and evaluate your relationships will also help you to reach your goals faster: How would it benefit you to rush in and get
hurt emotionally or financially?
One roadblock in our ability to be there
emotionally with our
partner is our
hurt and anger.
Has anyone ever been
hurt emotionally by events related to your sexual behavior, e.g., lying to
partner or friends, not showing up for event / appointment due to sexual liaisons, etc.?
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is a structured model of therapy that has been proven time and time again to help couples recover from the
hurt of an affair, reconnect with their
partner on a deep emotional level, and build happier, more resilient marriages.
There are at least two strategies for dealing with this attachment insecurity: (a) become preoccupied with relational
partners by being overly sensitive to
partner's emotional moves and developing a sustained expectation that
partner's will eventually betray or abandon them (i.e., attachment anxiety), and / or (b) avoid developing relationships of any significant emotional depth to avoid getting
hurt in the first place, which often leads insecurely attached individuals to become
emotionally aloof, overly fixated with self - reliance, and
emotionally unavailable to others in times of need (i.e., attachment avoidance).
This negative pattern can easily develop once
partners feel
hurt or invalidated in small ways and therefore begin to pull away
emotionally to protect themselves.
A repair technique is when one
partner uses good tact to help the other
partner emotionally recover from feeling
hurt during a conflict.
That would would defeat the purpose of doing it separately to help you both feel
emotionally safe to answer honestly without worrying about
hurting your
partner's feelings or repercussions.
Jealousy is an
emotionally healthy couple's signal to soothe the
hurting partner, set up relationship protecting boundaries and be totally open about e-mails, cell phone and online chat accounts.
Do you and your
partner argue with each other to the extent where one or both of you feels
emotionally hurt?
No one deserves to have their
partner or spouse
hurt them
emotionally, physically, or sexually.
The withdrawing
partner becomes more
emotionally engaged, and the more angry
partner works to express his or her
hurts and fears.
Learning and practicing having healthy conflict management skills provides you the opportunity as a couple to resolve an issue, avoid
emotionally hurting one another, and give way to know and understand your
partner at a deeper level.