Relationship researcher John Gottman has found that marriages in which
the husband accepts influence from his wife are far less likely to end in divorce than marriages where he is closed to her suggestions.
Not exact matches
Dr. Gottman found that women are already willing and able to
accept influence from the
husband.
Obviously,
husbands are not always the ones who refuse to compromise or
accept their partner's
influence (and often make this mistake without even noticing), but according to our research, a significant gender difference exists in handling of areas of conflict.
To see this from another perspective, Dr. Gottman's research reveals that, «The wives of men who
accept their
influence are far less likely to be harsh with their
husbands when broaching a difficult marital topic.
A
husband's ability to be
influenced by his wife (rather than vice-versa) is crucial because research shows that women are already well practiced at
accepting influence from men.
In studying heterosexual marriages, we found that a relationship succeeds to the extent that the
husband can
accept influence from his wife.
Marriage expert Dr. John Gottman suggests that marriages in which the
husband «
accepts influence» from his wife are the marriages that last.