Not exact matches
So far I have freaked out about doubling the amount of children in our house, where the babies are going to
sleep, cloth diapering, starting completely over with baby clothes instead of trying to sort through what would be usable, nursing two babies at the same time, buying a bigger house, how I'm going to drive four kids around (thank God we just replaced my
husband's car in January with a full size SUV with a usable third row), traveling with four kids, what happens if my
husband has to start traveling for work,
getting the big kids to and from school with two babies in tow, how the big kids are going to feel once there are two new babies in the house, how I»M going to feel with two
more babies in the house, and so on and so forth.
Also your
husband really does need to be
more involved — even if he can totally take over just for a couple of nights to
get you some decent
sleep, that could make a huge difference.
Sometimes it is me making an excuse about why I felt unmotivated to
get this or that done: «Oh, if I'd only had a good night's
sleep, then I would've...» But,
more often I hear the phrase from my
husband.
Prior to baby Mallary being born, my
husband and I were a little concerned about
getting enough
sleep especially when we both have to go back to work, so we thought spending a little extra money for a crib promoted as the «Snoo Smart Sleeper System» had to be worth something
more.
How do I
get my
husband to help with our daughter at night time so that I can
get some
more sleep?
Prior to baby Mallary being born, my
husband and I were a little concerned about
getting enough
sleep especially when we both have to go back to work, so we thought spending a little extra money for a crib promoted as the «Smart Sleeper» had to be worth something
more.
It took up a fair bit of room in our queen - sized bed, but even once my
husband returned we kept using it; most nights, she'd
sleep in the nest from 10 - 4 (with at least one nursing session, sometimes
more) and then I'd lie her on my chest with pillows all around me from 4 - 7, it was the best
sleep either of us
got!
She notes that if
sleep is the biggest issue, you can explore explore alternative ways of
getting more sleep, such as nursing in a side - lying position (if you're uncomfortable with co-sleeping, your
husband can supervise while baby is nursing) or taking «shifts» at night where you or your
husband are responsible for all of the feeding and baby care while the other
sleeps a solid chunk.
I finally figured it out — things
get bad when my
husband is around
more during the day — weekends or university holidays (thus, the
sleep disaster that was late December).
In my case my not having to
get out of bed, my
husband continuing to
sleep, the security I feel I am giving to my baby, the fact that I respond to the baby before s / he cries, shorter feedings,
more sleep, the pleasure of having the baby near me all night, and an increased period of infertility, are not enough to counter a possible increased risk of SIDS that is unlikely to be backed up by future studies.
For example my
husband was in with her last night for an hour and she
got more and
more upset until he came to
get me and asked me to nurse her / she
sleeps in our bed (I try not to nurse until at least 4 am normally).
The first thing I do to recover from burnout, after admitting it to myself and my
husband, is to
get more and better
sleep.
My
husband got up that day at around 3 am (he is a cook and works odd hours) and, as every morning, I considered myself lucky to be able to turn around and
sleep a few
more hours.