As to the latter, I will say that as an adult
adoptee in a closed adoption I thought that the questions spoke volumes about a specific closed adoption situation and the adoptee's need to come to an understanding about it more than they spoke about the differences necessarily between closed and open adoptions or about open adoption itself.
Juliana says living in an open adoption has allowed her to find answers to questions that she would never have found
in a closed adoption such as: Why was I placed?
A contemporary of mine, Anne shines light on the natural consequences that come from growing up
in the closed adoption era, in which everyone involved in adoption was to treat it as a one - time event, as something that would never arise again.
And unfortunately, this set the stage for the distress of many adult adoptees who, being adopted
in the closed adoption network of the last century, have worked diligently to sort out their own personal identities.
I wrote a post a while back attempting to explain that all adoptees have (or had) birthparents, whether they came from an orphanage in Russia or are
in closed adoptions locally.
Even in a closed adoption, it is Arizona law that the prospective adoptive parents receive detailed, written non-identifying information about the baby and both sides of the birth family, including their medical and social history.
As to the latter, I will say that as an adult
adoptee in a closed adoption I thought that the questions spoke volumes about a specific closed adoption situation and the adoptee's need to come to an understanding about it more than they spoke about the differences necessarily between closed and open adoptions or about open adoption itself.
And they can answer your questions more accurately and give you a better idea about what to expect than birthmothers who placed their
babies in closed adoptions.
In a closed adoption, there is no contact between and no identifying information exchanged by the adoptive and birth parents.
In a closed adoption, the birth mother generally doesn't choose the adoptive parents and relies on the experience of the adoption professional to select the best adoptive parents.
What is the opposite situation,
in a closed adoption?
In a closed adoption you could hope that your child was thriving... but you wouldn't know!
May 29: My Two Open Adoptions In this post, Mary Pettice, an adoptee
in a closed adoption, explains why she opened it up and eventually went on to pursue an open placement of her own.
/ / Sage, adoptee
in a closed adoption and birth mother in an open adoption
In closed adoptions, agencies do not give the adopters information on the natural mothers because the adopters paid for a baby to call their own.
In closed adoption, adoptive parents and birthparents don't share their names or contact address and have no ongoing contact after the born is born.
In a closed adoption, you face the prospect of keeping a secret and lying to your child about his or her origin.
In a closed adoption the records of the biological parents are kept private when the family adopts the baby.
In a closed adoption, the birth mother and adoptive parents do not meet each other or know each others» names.
In a closed adoption, your records would be kept private throughout the adoption process.
Open or Closed Adoption —
In a closed adoption, the birth parents and the adoptive couple do not know each other and do not meet during the entire process.
In a closed adoption, you face the prospect of keeping a secret and lying to your child about his or her origin.