Too much suffering occurs because couples simply have not had the resources to guide
them in making their marriage work.
I am reading this post for the 3rd time in 2 weeks and I can see the simplicity
in making our marriages work.
Giving your spouse your complete attention and acting like you want to be there shows that you are invested
in making your marriage work, says Gunzburg.
The world's leading researcher
in making marriage work, Dr. John Gottman, states: «Happily married couples aren't smarter, richer, or more psychologically astute than others.
As an experienced couples counselor and expert in his community, James shared his thoughts on the fundamental necessities
in making a marriage work and the toxic pitfalls that couples have to avoid at all costs!
As Celello writes
in Making Marriage Work:
She also works as a supervisor
in the Make Your Marriage Work premarital program.
Everyone knows that having a healthy sexual relationship between a man and a woman is an important aspect
in making a marriage work.
We are living in a period when marriage is available to everyone, but in which we are no better prepared to make relationships work, yet we are expected to succeed somehow
in making marriage work.
Compatibility is very important
in making a marriage work.
Not exact matches
When the company acquired LinkedIn for $ 26.2 billion
in 2016, PCMag
made several predictions about the ways
in which a Microsoft and LinkedIn
marriage could
work, like Microsoft leveraging LinkedIn
in order to give users access to expertise within Microsoft apps, such as Word and PowerPoint.
«After a long and painful consideration and
work on my
marriage, I have
made the decision to separate from my husband,» she said
in a statement.
Make hard
work your favorite words, whether at
work or at home or
in your
marriage or wherever your definition of success takes you.
It could also have a positive effect on womens» employment and careers by
making it easier to balance
work with home and childcare obligations — since men
in heterosexual
marriages still often aren't doing their share on that front.
My life was turned upside down a couple years back
in a situation that led to the dissolution of my
marriage, I also
work in animal rescue, which brings me constant anxiety that animals I know and care about may not
make it, and frequently the actual crushing pain of losing them.
If they are all adult and do not engage
in the act of marrying children, and if plural
marriage works for them and
make thems happy, what possible difference does it
make to anyone else?
There are things we have established
in our
marriage right from the start that have
worked for us: how we handle money, how we speak to each other, how we
make decisions, how we lead our family together, how we parent, how we
work.
If your analogy were to
work in the same way, you would have to
make marriage the third corner — husband, wife,
marriage NOT husband, wife, inlaws.
And the idea that, as a wife, I would need to «become passive» or smaller or somehow less
in order to
make my
marriage work is damaging and wrong.
Given the close association of the sexes
in modern
working life, men or women need to observe delicate respect for the commitments of married colleagues; carelessness here could
make them responsible for the collapse of a
marriage and the destruction of a family.
But this part of her argument raises another question: If people's love for their children can motivate them to
make heroic efforts to be good parents after divorce, couldn't the same amount of effort be expended to
make many of the
marriages work in the first place?
I am not saying that
marriages between people of different faiths never
work at all, or that simply being a «Christian» guarantees that we will
make good choices
in our
marriage or that we will be exempt from divorce.
The parables disclose with what pleasure and tolerance he surveyed the broad scene of human activity: the merchant seeking pearls; the farmer sowing his fields; the real - estate man trying to buy a piece of land
in which he had secret reason to believe a treasure lay buried; the dishonest secretary, who had been given notice,
making friends against the evil day among his employer's debtors by reducing their obligations; the five young women sleeping with lamps burning while the bridegroom tarried and unable to attend the
marriage because their sisters who had had foresight enough to bring additional oil refused to lend them any; the rich man whose guests for dinner all
made excuses; the man comfortably
in bed with his children who gets up at midnight to help his importunate neighbor only because he despairs of getting rid of him otherwise; the king who is out to capture a city; the man who built his house upon the sand and lost it
in the first storm of wind and rain; the queer employer who pays all of his men the same wage whether they have
worked the whole day or a single hour; the great lord who going to a distant land entrusts his property to his three servants and judges them by the success of their investments when he returns; the shepherd whose sheep falls into a ditch; the woman with ten pieces of silver who, losing one, lights the candle and sweeps diligently till she finds it, and
makes the finding of it the occasion of a celebration
in which all of her neighbors are invited to share — and how long such a list might be!
In less prosperous and less romantic times, Christians have viewed marriage in more pragmatic terms as God's good gift of providing a partner with whom to work and live and make lov
In less prosperous and less romantic times, Christians have viewed
marriage in more pragmatic terms as God's good gift of providing a partner with whom to work and live and make lov
in more pragmatic terms as God's good gift of providing a partner with whom to
work and live and
make love.
But while his outstanding books on
marriage, morality and spirituality gradually became known
in the English - speaking world, and his series of
works on the post-Conciliar Church
made him a hero to committed Catholics, few knew of Dietrich's early writings against fascism and Nazism, written
in German but never translated.
i don't think he's
in the business of
making our
marriage work by me turning off my brain or my wife turning off hers.
However, as we look around today and ask what conditions seem on the whole to
make for happiness
in marriage, we are driven to the curious conclusion that the more «civilized people become the less capable they seem of lifelong happiness with one partner» (p. 135) For a
marriage to
work requires that there «be a feeling of complete equality on both sides; there must be no interference with mutual freedom; there must be the most complete physical and mental intimacy; and there must be a certain similarity
in regard to standards of value» (p. 143).
But we are committed to investing
in our
marriage in this way, and so we
make it
work, even if it's a shared dessert at home after our daughter goes to sleep or a walk at the park with her
in a stroller while we talk.
Society and cultural norms and history have
made marriage something that seems totally normal, when
in reality, only certain types of people and certain types of personalities are going to be naturally able to
make marriage work.
Also, if you want to come up with a better model for
marriage, you're going to have to
make some judgments about what
works in general.
All of which would
make me sad if I weren't so excited by what Susan and I are
working on — models to
make marriage work better for those who want to marry while acknowledging that
marriage isn't for everyone (and that's OK — who wants to get «caught up
in the hoopla» a la Kim Kardashian)-- and that divorce isn't a failure.
Doyle isn't the only one who thinks it all rests on the woman's shoulders, or so I learned by reading the illuminating book
Making Marriage Work by Kristin Celello, newly out in paperback; I now understand why we consider marriage as something to «work» on (although it wasn't always seen that way; it used to be a «duty») and why saving a marriage is «women's work» — that's how it has been presented to women for
Marriage Work by Kristin Celello, newly out in paperback; I now understand why we consider marriage as something to «work» on (although it wasn't always seen that way; it used to be a «duty») and why saving a marriage is «women's work» — that's how it has been presented to women for deca
Work by Kristin Celello, newly out
in paperback; I now understand why we consider
marriage as something to «work» on (although it wasn't always seen that way; it used to be a «duty») and why saving a marriage is «women's work» — that's how it has been presented to women for
marriage as something to «
work» on (although it wasn't always seen that way; it used to be a «duty») and why saving a marriage is «women's work» — that's how it has been presented to women for deca
work» on (although it wasn't always seen that way; it used to be a «duty») and why saving a
marriage is «women's work» — that's how it has been presented to women for
marriage is «women's
work» — that's how it has been presented to women for deca
work» — that's how it has been presented to women for decades.
KatesWorld40 — I think anyone, female or male, who is continually disrespected
in a
marriage / relationship should look probably needs to leave (assuming attempts to
work with the offending party to
make things better hasn't
worked).
One of them copped to initiating an affair thinking that maybe if they could just get it «out of their system» then they might be able to
make the
marriage work in other aspects.
And the promotion of «traditional»
marriage will continue to
make people unhappy, first because there is no such thing as «traditional»
marriage —
marriage has been changing since humans created the concept — and second because the model doesn't
work for about half of us, probably more as many people stay married
in name only just to get health benefits, etc..
I think it's great people are able to
make marriage work, to compromise and rely on one another for support
in life and with children.
But if we're really talking about - honest - to - goodness, down - and - dirty, I'm - committed - to - doing - what - it - takes - to -
make - this - relationship -
work commitment, then shouldn't a couple that takes commitment seriously be able to
work through infidelity —
in whatever incarnation it comes to them — and keep their
marriage intact?
Astro: If they go through the process of asking whether
marriage is
working for them without the fear and shame that the sacred cows produce, they'll still probably have some soul searching to do and maybe a lot of pain to go through, but it would be less than it would be otherwise and they'll probably end up
in a happier place if they can
make that decision free of that fear.
A few years ago I
made the explicit decision to structure my days and workflow so I didn't need to
work in the evenings because to the surprise of no one,
working every night was seriously detrimental to my
marriage!
It may be the stress of the childhood relationships to divorced parents, the expectation that
marriages can easily end
in divorce, or the loss of a close and confiding relationship with two parents who have
made a
marriage work that account for these findings.
This is a generation that is used to this idea that everything is
in beta, that life is a
work in progress, so the idea of a beta
marriage makes sense,» the study's author, Melissa Lavigne - Delville, told me.
Time crunch: The amount of time couples devoted to
marriages in prior eras doesn't cut it today; now, you need to invest more to
make it
work.
In 1971, seven years after their wedding, Cosby's wife, Camille, remained committed to
making their
marriage work despite the distractions of Hollywood.
Between juggling kids, career, housework and husband, it would seem the life of a
working mom would
make for a strained
marriage, but the opposite may be true, according to a recent study published
in the Journal of Family Psychology.
So my question is, do you think a
marriage or a relationship / friendship like that could
work if both are open and upfront about the terms and boundaries of the relationship, and both are content to cohabitate (sic)
in an arrangement like this because we
make each other happy and we love each other
in our own way, but we're not
in love with each other?
Contact Professor Ali Khim for a powerful
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Dr. Gayle Peterson's
Making Healthy Families website has been given Honorable Mention for the Peter Markin award by the Association of
Marriage and Family Therapy «The Markin Family commends the
work of Dr. Gayle Peterson, whose website www.makinghealthyfamilies.com, has been developed
in the spirit and true desire to outreach to families and the community.
In a Psychology Today article titled «What
Makes Marriage Work,» Gottman writes that communication is key to a lasting marriage, even if that communication means
Marriage Work,» Gottman writes that communication is key to a lasting
marriage, even if that communication means
marriage, even if that communication means arguing.
It has also helped my friendships and
marriage by not trying to
make everyone else
in my life my listening partner — which was not
working so well!
If you're offended by this Parenting
Marriage idea, I invite you to tune
in again next week and just listen to some of the ways people have
made this arrangement
work.