If he gets, most of the time, loving response to his needs, he can take also the impatience at his dependence that comes when the mother is tired, the
angry words between his
parents when their own needs are not being met, the conflict that is
inevitable in any family.
Administrators don't want to deal with the
inevitable controversies that will arise (an
angry conservative
parent, a news story on political correctness in a local middle school, etc.).