We all know the importance of
initial physical attraction for romantic relationships.
In fact,
initial physical attraction is not the most important element in long term relationship compatibility.
Not exact matches
There are aspects of character and personality that will create a bond beyond the
initial stage of
attraction, and online dating allows us to go beyond the chance meeting, beyond the
physical attraction.
However, similarity and
attraction are not limited to personality characteristics.2 Matching on other factors like age, education, socioeconomic status,
physical attractiveness, attitudes, and even name - letter
initials has been linked to increased
attraction and relationship satisfaction.3, 4,5,6 Despite the overabundance of scientifically - validated literature on the topic, I think no one has described the phenomenon better than Jerry Seinfeld when he said,
Similarity in
physical appearance is an important factor in
initial attraction, and it is part of the reason couple members often look like each other right from the start.
Indeed, there are some casual dating circumstances in which a strong
physical attraction is experienced at the onset of
initial positive communication either because one or both of the daters are highly physically attractive.