A child's distinct personality may make it seem like he or she displays one
the insecure attachment styles when in fact they are securely attached.
On the contrary, people can grow up and develop
an insecure attachment style when the early experience with a caregiver was unpredictable, inconsistent, neglectful, or even abusive.
Not exact matches
But, especially if you developed an
insecure attachment style as a child, you may have difficulty in relating to your spouse — and vice versa — particularly during conflict, while distressed, or
when stressed - out.
It's often possible too that
when one
insecure individual partners with a secure partner, the person with the alternate
attachment style can more easily become secure, and the relationship endures (Brogaard, 2015).
In fact, there is evidence from long - term relationships that among partners with
insecure attachment, they were more likely to have complementary
attachment styles.4 There is also research suggesting that
when a relationship is likely, people prefer a partner who has some dissimilarity.5
Similarly,
when a person with an
insecure attachment style is upset, they are living in the SNS and are reacting to reach safety.
When someone has an
insecure attachment style, they either exhibit avoidant or anxious behaviors to cope with this... Read more»
The other two
insecure attachment styles did provide the child with a coping strategy: • Avoidant
attachment was characterized by the child's emotional disengagement - a defensive strategy to the mother's lack of response; «Why bother reaching out
when nothing happens»!
When someone has an
insecure attachment style, they either exhibit avoidant or anxious behaviors to cope with this
attachment insecurity.
This is especially true
when one or more partners have
attachment trauma from childhood (
insecure attachment styles) or
when one partner wants to open the relationship and the other has ambivalence or does not want to open to other partners and / or lovers.
When a child's caretakers fail to repair the ruptures in their emotional bonds,
insecure and avoidant
attachment styles often form.