It is
interesting to look at some more sweeping
generalisations often made by psychologists: that men are more oriented towards rights and justice, women more towards responsibility and caring (and, yes, self - giving); or, to put it another way, male identity is forged in relation to the world, and female identity awakened in a relationship of intimacy with other persons; or, further, that «development», in the male mode, implies establishing the independence of «self» from others, while in the female mode self is developed by relating to others.
This brings up the major difference I've noticed between dating in and outside the Christian world, and one of those
generalisations I warned against: Christians date people they are
interested in, outside the church people date to find out if they are
interested.