In empathizing with their clients, professionals sometimes unwittingly get drawn
into advocacy roles, supporting what they believe to be their clients» best interests —
winning custody of the
children, keeping the house, securing restraining orders, avoiding nasty alimony judgments — without stepping back to look at how their interventions, or lack thereof, affect the divorcing client and family.
Worse yet, look at the increasing number of
child custody cases that have turned
into wars where it's more than just a matter of
winning or losing; it's a matter of conquering and succumbing.