While the bereft
spouse yearns for their mate, and in part wants nothing more than a few hours of feeling things «the way they used to be», the experience of having pizza and laughing «normally»
at the kids»
jokes and then saying good bye in the parking lot while their
spouse drives off to their new life makes adjustment and recovery much more difficult.
In fact, a divorce can become such a complicated and nasty affair that many people have
joked that a
spouse dying is a less stressful event because
at least you don't have to fight the deceased in court!