I'm realizing that there are some VERY negative, miserable, insecure people out there who like to
judge other mothers and force their beliefs down everyone's throats.
This seems to be a theme round the mama blogosphere of late — thou shall not
judge other mothers.
I'd love to know what
you judge other mothers on, when you've been, or felt, judged, and why you think we do it.
Gwyneth Paltrow explained it like this, «I never understand why mothers
judge other mothers, like, «What do you mean you didn't breastfeed?
Please do not accuse me of
judging those other mothers who don't love their children as much as I love mine.
In classic Sanctimommy fashion, Elicia makes sure to declare that she is so not
judging any other mothers.
You're not
judging other mothers.
Not exact matches
Without the use of personal, agential metaphors, however, including among
others God as
mother, father, healer, lover, friend,
judge, and liberator, the metaphor of the world as God's body would be pantheistic, for the body would be all there were.25 Nonetheless, the model is most precisely designated as panentheistic; that is, it is a view of the God - world relationship in which all things have their origins in God and nothing exists outside God, though this does not mean that God is reduced to these things.26
It continued after the excerpt above:» «Be of good cheer» by such words and none
other, let your heart be moved, dear
mother», and she was to be thankful that she lived in a time when they no longer had to see Jesus as a
Judge.
«Bush promotes school vouchers,
judge blocks Virginia's partial - birth abortion ban, aborted embryos may become
mothers, and
other articles from online sources around the world»
Wow... first, we have a
mother that is so clueless that she can not see what she is doing to her child... very selfish... then, somehow, something so dumb only gets worse because a
judge who is obviously more cuckoo than the mom decides what name is «not allowed»... guess it's not as bad as the morons who tried to name their kid Hitler, or the
other morons who tried for Osama bin Laden... which leads me to the question... do Muslim extremists kill people who name their child Muhammad after the prophet, and then photograph him?
And this happens all too often: we
judge each
other as
mothers by what we think of their kids.
«While experts are not, in the end, able to control how
mothers feed their babies, they do set the standards by which women may be
judged by
others and, perhaps most importantly,
judge themselves.»
Sometimes I felt the
judging eyes of
other mothers while I was picking up my formula in the store.
And to encourage
others to make breastfeeding
mothers feel accepted and supported; not alienated, ridiculed and
judged.
Since becoming a
mother, I've witnessed how
others live to
judge and tell you, either to your face or behind your back, what you are doing wrong in terms of parenting.
when it comes to childbirth are also the same
mothers who will freely
judge other moms for formula feeding, vaccinating, or forward - facing before age 4 - because all of those things are «less safe / healthy for baby!»
To quote myself: If you are one of those women who can't seem to offer your «support» without
judging other women either directly or passive aggressively, if you do denigrate formula feeding
mothers in the name of upholding women who want to breastfeed, if you spread outright lies about formula companies and the product they sell, you are doing nothing but feeding into the hype and exacerbating the anxiety felt by some of the very
mothers you claim to express concern for.......
This article and all articles on baby center are here to HELP ALL
mothers... if I were a mom who unknowingly made these mistakes I would feel horrible after reading some of these comments and I believe as
mothers we should be there for each
other to lift one another up not belittle,
judge and put
others down.
But, on the
other hand, I get so frustrated that debating all things mom is just proving that
mothers are relentlessly being
judged for their choices.
but when you have experienced judgment and shame at the hands of
other mothers, it's hard not to internalize those experiences and assume every
mother is
judging you, too.
But I'm not sure the comparison to «animals» is a fair one since animals do not wear clothes nor are human babies as instinctual and as self sufficient as most animal babies... (I've never heard of a
mother chimpanzee holding her young over a bowl to pee; --RRB- but as long as our children are cared for in a loving manner we shouldn't
judge too much
other parenting techniques.
It's time to acknowledge and value the power of choosing motherhood and stop
judging other women based on
mothering choices.
«Women are quick to
judge other women as
mothers even if they go to the office, so you can imagine if they're giving up custody,» Sills told Vieira.
Mothers need to stop
judging each
other on how they choose to nurish their babies!
Writing on her blog, the 30 - year - old Brazilian who gave birth in December, said she «wasn't here to
judge»
other mothers.
The management of infant sleep is one of the first areas of parenting in which new
mothers and fathers are
judged by
others.
We all have our own different styles of
mothering and it's when we come together to empower each
other — not
judge each
other when we are trying our best — that motherhood is absolutely BEAUTIFUL.
The reason why I wouldn't wanted to breastfeed would be issues with my anatomy (latching, supply lack of support from my husband, feeling
judged by
other mothers, lack of societal support like no being able to BF anywhere the baby wanted to eat and so on.
What I want to say, though, is that we all do the best we can for our babies and it is not for us to
judge, but to try to understand what
other mothers are going through.
And then, facing likely defeat, the
mother would feel embarrassed, frustrated, perhaps
judged by the
other parent, and maybe even a bit resentful of her child.
Don't
judge other people who choose this option because the
mothers I know would rather not have a pill from the Dr for PPD and take it naturally from what their own bodies grew to provide the baby to be healthy.
The
mother and aunt of Shanell Malave console each
other outside the Riverhead Criminal courtroom of
judge Mark D. Cohen Friday after the arraignment of William Hubbard for the 2011 murder of Malave of Mastic Beach.
The reason, according to the
judge, is that the patent poses a «risk of preempting [
other uses of] the natural phenomenon» that the test focuses on — fetal DNA that can be isolated from the
mother's blood.
Others might have
judged us for our imperfect
mothering.
Much of the comedy of Bad Moms (Jon Lucas and Scott Moore, 2016)-- a film that is predicated on the very real, paralyzing fear
mothers have about being not good enough to their kids (and being
judged by
others for it)-- falls flat because it starts from an unbelievable place, pushes only some details to their extremes (not really abiding by an «if x, then y» logic), and lurches forth with its plot.
Other support work is provided by Ken Howard as the
judge, Emma Trembley (Hank's daughter), Balthazar Getty as the deputy with a grudge, Grace Zabriske as the victim's vengeance seeking
mother, David Krumholtz as a District Attorney, and Denis O'Hare as Duvall's doctor.
The case winds up in family court,
mother and son fighting each
other for custody, leaving the
judge with the authority to decide the girl's fate, Courtroom drama follows, with Frank defended well by his lawyer, Fred Cullen (Glenn Plummer) and opposed by child welfare authority rep, and we do get to hear the decision of the court, allowing us to take sides as well.
For example:
Mother Teresa was not crucified or
judged by
others for not being able to provide feather blankets or steaks, or special medication for all the many individual lives that she helped and saved.
Last year, shortly before imposing a criminal contempt sentence on a
mother who had repeatedly and blithely interfered with my client's visitation, the
judge asked her: «Do you love your child more than you hate the
other parent?»
I have watched my ex's council flat out lie to
judges over the last couple years to prevent myself any more parenting time than a couple hours a week, I have gotten reports of my daughters worsening behavior and school and in
other social activities The few adults that were in her life that I could trust to try and look out for her and be there to provide support have slowly been weeded out of her life by her
mother because they dared criticize her treatment of the children.
On appeal, Father argued the trial
judge erred in calculating child support, granting the
mother sole legal decision making, and
other evidentiary rulings related to the case.
In
other words, the motions
judge simply converted the
mother's now - unenforceable equalization claim into an enforceable entitlement to lump sum spousal support.
This week we will review:
Judge Orders
Mother to Stop Putting Father's E-mails in the Junk Folder, and
Other Things, and Appeal Court Rules on Privacy of Text Messages.
If the
mother wants to move to China, but the child is accustomed to spending every
other weekend with her father, a
judge may rule that separating the child from her father is emotionally detrimental to the child.
With the historic focus on preserving the
mother - infant attachment while establishing an exclusive home, overnights or extended visits with the
other parent (mostly the father) were long forbidden or strongly discouraged by
judges, custody evaluators, therapists, mental health professionals, family law attorneys, and not surprisingly, many
mothers (e.g., Garrity & Baris, 1992; Goldstein, Freud, & Solnit, 1973; Goldstein, Freud, Solnit, & Goldstein, 1986; Hodges, 1991).
[Appeal of trial court's change of custody granted: To change custody on four factors alone, as enunciated by the trial
judge, and give less than equal weight to the love, affection and emotional ties the son had for and to his
mother, her husband and her
other children was found to be an error in law.]»
Please help this
mother and her children and stop Lawyers and
Judges from, I will put it politely, being unfair and unjust, among
other things I rather not say, to being impartial and fair (listened to all involved and reviewing all evidence) like they are suppose to do before rulling, another way of saying it, do an honest job of the Oath they took.
I hope this case can cross borders to
other judges who are torn on the bench for taking children away from
mothers who use and abuse their ex husbands for money and control.