His young mind just thinks mommy / daddy is leaving... (IMO)
After this fight we worked hard speaking with midwives and more experienced parents (FTM) to make this solution which works for us: 8:00 pm dinner 8:30 pm bathtime atleast 30 mins worth of play 9:00 pm dry off and last drink (milk with local honey (during teething we add chamomile per midwife's suggestions) 9:10 pm complete blackout besides one light in
kitchen to be able to see
bedtime storys and lullyby 9:30 pm he is out for the night.