Not exact matches
My
birth father abandoned me at
birth though I do not
know anything else except that their union was one of love for each
other (I just learned that my
birth mother was shipped off to a mental hospital where I was born.
No doubt it's not convenient for
birth goddess / natural
mother cred among your crunchy peers, but it's damn convenient for a lot of
other things.
I am hoping for an open adoption where reunion isn't necessary because everyone
knows each
other from the start, but am finding that sometimes you have contact with the
birth mother but not at all and / or no information on the
birth father's side (so search and reunion would be something in the future there), and that you could be open to open adoption but the
birth mother is not.
Thank you for sharing your story to hopefully help
other adoptive parents realize how important open adoption is to the
birth mother, and to help expectant women
know what they should be thinking about for the future.
Other tribes are
known to have their women practice unassisted
birth, or
birth with female attendants outside the camp, because the
mother is expected to determine if the newborn is healthy and appropriately spaced from its next oldest sibling.
Friday, August 31 at 4:47 PM: Pam N. from California wrote: «I would like to let
other birth mothers know that i have had the great pleasure of being reuinited with my daughter after 18 long years.
Thursday, July 12 at 4:6 AM: carol garratt from England wrote: «Great site, well done, keep up the good work, nice to
know other people feel the same as me, people need to
know the pain and anger we feel as
birth mothers.»
Christy Turlington Burns, CEO & Founder, Every
Mother Counts, said, «Following a childbirth related complication after the
birth of my first child, I
knew I wanted to do all I could to prepare and support
other mothers throughout pregnancy and childbirth.
We now
know that an infant, at
birth, has some information about its
mother's language; it can distinguish its
mother's language from some
other language when both are spoken by a bilingual woman.
Researchers
know that infants acquire about 100 species of microbes in the
birth canal, and
others come from the
mother's skin after
birth.
When you share your
birth story,
no matter how it played out, you are helping validate
other mothers» experiences.
I was especailly horrified to see that children were taken away from their
mothers and given to
others with the
birth mothers not
knowing any more about the children or the families where they ended up.
If a puppy is removed from its litter too early, such as if the
mother died at
birth, and then hand raised by humans, not seeing another dog by 16 weeks of age, the dog will never be able to relate to
other dogs, won't
know how to play with them, and will either be afraid or aggressive towards them.
Passing through colostrum is actually one of the ways
mothers will pass their «immunity» onto their puppies, also
known as passive immunity, with the
other being through the uterus before giving
birth.
In a closed adoption, the
birth mother and adoptive parents do not meet each
other or
know each
others» names.
Birth mothers can't get to
know you if your profile looks the same as every
other prospective adoptive family.
A
birth mother's husband, her
other children, and many of her relatives and friends may not
know of the adopted person's existence and she may fear the consequences of her secret being exposed.
I am hoping for an open adoption where reunion isn't necessary because everyone
knows each
other from the start, but am finding that sometimes you have contact with the
birth mother but not at all and / or no information on the
birth father's side (so search and reunion would be something in the future there), and that you could be open to open adoption but the
birth mother is not.