Some indications that your spouse, partner, husband or wife has gone too far include: getting angry at you when you disagree; punching holes in walls; throwing objects (aimed at nothing or at you); destroying belongings; threatening to hurt you or
leave you for the purpose of intimidating you; physically preventing you from
leaving home; putting pressure on you not to work when you want to; insulting or ridiculing you; becoming
jealous of your
friends, activities, or hobbies; making you account for your whereabouts at all times; using promises and lies to manipulate you or to get you to forgive their angry or threatening behavior; isolating you from
friends or family; making you ask permission to go out or make a career move; and threatening to harm your possessions, pets, or children.
Psychological victimization was assessed with the following 5 clusters of items: a) threatened to hit,
leave you, or take the children away; b) monitored your whereabouts or
friends;
jealous / suspicious; c) ordered you around, treated you like a servant; d) was aggressive towards property or pets; destroyed your property; and e) insulted or sworn at you, put you down, belittled you, would not listen to your point of view, made you feel worthless.