There are numerous scientific and emotional reasons why we have chosen not to
let our babies cry it out, which I have summarized below.
Please do nt
let the baby cry it out.
Its not an either or, either you co-sleep or
let baby cry it out.
â $ œNo, I don't think you should
let a baby cry it out, â $ says Dr. Sears, â $ œand the most important thing is, Robert, who's getting up with the baby during the night, anyway?
Is it okay to
let your baby crying out loud?
Although it was once believed that
letting your baby cry it out during the night was the only way to train him or her to sleep through the night, it's now believed that doing this can raise stress levels in your child and make your little one fearful of sleep instead.
The GSC approach is a gentler alternative for families who emotionally or philosophically resist
letting their babies cry it out: for families who tried «Ferber» (controlled crying) and it didn't work, and for families who let their baby cry - it - out earlier but now find it doesn't help.
It is important to understand when to
let baby cry it out and when your baby really needs you.
Don't worry that you are
letting you baby Cry It Out, because Crying It Out is when you ignore your baby's cry for help.
The Gentle Sleep Coach ® approach is a gentler alternative for families who emotionally or philosophically resist
letting their babies cry it out alone.
Then it's time to find someone else to calm your baby or for you to
let the baby cry it out.
The Mommy Wars are nothing new, and I think at some point every mom has found herself trying to justify why she didn't breastfeed and why she chose to
let her baby cry it out.
Before me sat a stack of articles and books — old and new — with the same old choice of two answers to my dilemma: Either
let the baby cry it out or learn to live with it.
Dr. William Sears, in Nighttime Parenting: How to Get Your Baby and Child to Sleep (La Leche International, 1999), says that
letting a baby cry it out creates «detachment parenting» and goes so far as to warn parents against this approach:
Decisions about how you'd raise your kid basically amounted to whether or not you'd go breast or bottle, and if you were going to
let your baby cry it out or not.
Many (if not all) parents who resort to
letting their babies cry it out do so because they believe that it is the only way they will get their babies to sleep through the night.
Now a mature, seasoned parent and professional parent educator, I found that my beliefs about
letting a baby cry it out had not changed at all.
I did find much new data that reinforced my abhorrence of
letting a baby cry it out.
There were hard nights as the parent of an infant, but looking back I can honestly say that I'm happy I didn't
let my babies cry it out.
The final method is simply to
let your babies cry it out until they fall back to sleep on their own.
We were both initially opposed to the idea of
letting our babies cry it out, so we settled on a compromise: we would try each of the three steps, in order, until we reached success.
Letting the baby cry it out is far safer than shaking or punishing him.
As a first time mom suffering from sleep deprivation, the advice I received from others to
let my baby cry it out did not work for me.
«When
you let a baby cry it out, it's not that they have soothed themselves to sleep - it's actually that they have given up on others.»
Don't
let your baby cry it out.
I have been told everything from
let the baby cry it out to if I
let the baby cry it out I commenting child abuse.
Letting your baby cry it out is psychologically damaging to them.
Let your baby cry it out.
«An emotionally available parent would probably not
let their baby cry it out,» claims Dr. Teti, a researcher at Penn State.
In regards to this woman's article though I just feel that we should never
let babies cry it out.
If
letting your baby cry it out (to a certain extent) works for you and you don't notice negative outcomes then great for you!
Myth:
Let your baby cry it out; if you pick her up whenever she's wailing, you'll spoil her.
If you don't believe in
letting your baby cry it out, but desperately want to sleep, there is now a third option, presented by Elizabeth Pantley based on her research.
I am sure cavemen / women were not
letting their babies cry it out.
As we have seen, there are many reasons why parents should not
let their baby cry it out.
They will simply tell you to
let your baby cry it out.
I believe if
we let a baby cry it out, we are in fact training them not to trust us.
Sleep training means
letting your baby cry it out Sleep training means understanding your child's biological sleep needs and teaching them to be an independent sleeper.
I personally don't love the concept of
letting a baby cry it out.
My approach is a gentler alternative for families who emotionally or philosophically resist
letting their babies cry it out: for families who tried «Ferber» and it didn't work, and for families who let their infant CIO at 3 or 4 months but found it didn't help later.
Can't bear to
let your baby cry it out?
She noted that sleep training isn't about
letting your baby cry it out, and you walking away hoping that he eventually falls asleep.
Please don't
let your baby cry it out.
My husband and I were very careful while sleep training our son, and were well aware of the times when you shouldn't
let your baby cry it out, yet we still both felt somewhat guilty for practicing that particular method.
I can see how someone who hadn't tried it, or someone who didn't do it correctly, would be against
letting a baby cry it out, but I can't understand why these people would equate it with being an unfit mother.
There's a school of thought that says we should
let the baby cry it out and it will learn to sleep through.
The basic idea of
letting your baby cry it out sounds simple enough: instead of getting up to soothe your fussy baby in the night, you let the little one cry a bit and then fall asleep again without help.
Since then, I've had people suggest I should
let my babies cry it out, have stricter punishment for my children and many more unwanted «pearls of wisdom.»
I wanted to sleep so badly but there was no way I was going to
let my baby cry it out to get there.
If you don't believe in
letting your baby cry it out, but desperately want to sleep, there is now a third option, presented in Elizabeth Pantley's sanity - saving book The No - Cry Sleep Solution.