Shaking a baby is a horrible tragedy that can cause certain brain damage and often death whereas
letting the baby cry for a few minutes (not hours) while you get your bearings or call for help, will not hurt the child.
You are not what the whole conversation is about and you are not part of the cruel parents who are cold hearted enough to
let their babies cry for an hour and a half.
I just read a blogger who actually emailed Dr. Ferber directly after her husband and
her let their baby cry for 2hours before finally picking her.
Most sleep experts and pediatricians agree that it's okay to
let a baby cry for a specified period of time and it works effectively for many families.
Millions of parents were told to
let their babies cry for increasing periods of time each night for about a week.
then she hired a sleep consultant, who advised her to
let her baby cry for 5 minutes at a time as a means to helping him to learn to put himself back to sleep.
The «cry it out» method refers to any sleep training approach that says it's OK to
let a baby cry for a specified period of time (often a very short period) before offering comfort.
How long do
I let my baby cry for?
When people think of sleep training, they typically assume it involves
letting their baby cry for some period of time.
Before
letting your baby cry for too long, you need to assess why your baby might be crying in the first place.
just keep in mind that every baby is different... but to
let your baby cry for over 10 to 15 minutes, in my eyes, is just teaching a poor innocent baby that her mommy is not there to comfort and reassure her that she is safe.
If sleep training really means
letting your baby cry for any length of time it is unhealthy for your baby.
Other methods are called «no - cry» sleep training methods, and the idea is to get the baby gradually used to sleeping on their own, but without
letting the baby cry for any length of time.
But «cry it out» (CIO) simply refers to any sleep training approach — and there are many — that says it's okay to
let a baby cry for a specified period of time (often a very short period) before offering comfort.
If you try the later, make sure you do not
let your baby cry for too long!
As long as you don't feel strongly opposed to a particular solution — say,
letting your baby cry for long periods — it's worth a shot.
You may need to
let baby cry for a minute with you out of the room to allow her time to distract herself with her surroundings.
Some babes cry because they're tired (or past the point of falling asleep without a peep / are overtired) and it is MOST DEFINITELY acceptable to
let the baby cry for five + minutes until it falls asleep.
I do not subscribe to the cry it out method, in which you just
let your baby cry for hours until he or she falls asleep exhausted.
The first time you leave the room,
let baby cry for about three minutes, then re-enter the room.
It's ok to
let the baby cry for a minute while you finish your task.
It is okay to
let your baby cry for a minute, in fact, sometimes they just need to be heard and then they are content.
A guide to sleep - training methods, including Ferber, that advocate
letting your baby cry for specified periods of time before o...
There are debates about the how long is too long to leave them, but most advocates of controlled crying agree that you shouldn't
let your baby cry for more than ten minutes before soothing them.
«Cry it out» is unfortunately often understood as «
let the baby cry for six hours straight» and that's definitely traumatizing.
how many times have i wished i could ask someone questions without them thinking i was a terrible mom b / c
i let my baby cry for a while (it's like they think you're the antichrist or something).
Not exact matches
Not asking
for much but these
cry babies always
let the fans down.
Any parent SHOULD know NOT to
let their child
cry for hours!!!! Anyone who has read a book on CIO («Babywise»,
for example) should remember that there is no reason why a
baby should
cry that long.
And to be honest, a mother who is about to snap
for lack of sleep and frustation of not being able to put her child down could be far more dangerous than putting the
baby down and
letting the little one
cry for awhile.
If all your
baby's needs are met, and there is no medical reason
for her to be
crying, you may just have to
let them fuss
for a few minutes.
I think the sleep training rigidity can go both ways — by that I mean, there are an awful lot of die hard «no
cry it out» mamas who probably think I'm an AWFUL person
for letting my
baby cry a little.
Some studies say
letting babies cry can cause learning difficulties
for them and anxiety problems
for parents.
That being said, Jennifer, there is a big difference between a mama who tried everything and has to learn to
let her
baby fuss /
cry for a few minutes to get some much needed sleep and a parent who willfully places a
baby alone in a crib with the intention of leaving it there with no comfort
for a pre-determined amount of adult - approved time.
It's OK to
let your
baby whimper
for a few minutes as she falls asleep, but she is too young to be left
for long bouts of
crying.
So
let me just put some key search phrases in here
for desperate parents on the internet:
baby won't stop eating
baby won't stop nursing
baby won't stop
crying baby won't stop breastfeeding
baby wants more milk
baby wants more formula three week 3 week 6 week six week I am a shitty mother please help.
The GSC approach is a gentler alternative
for families who emotionally or philosophically resist
letting their
babies cry it out:
for families who tried «Ferber» (controlled
crying) and it didn't work, and
for families who
let their
baby cry - it - out earlier but now find it doesn't help.
Put your
baby in her cot and
let him / her
cry it out
for a short period of time out of your range of hearing.
Your
baby may need some time to adjust to your new parenting style, so try
letting her
cry for two minutes on her own and then gradually increase the time.
Don't worry that you are
letting you
baby Cry It Out, because Crying It Out is when you ignore your baby's cry for he
Cry It Out, because
Crying It Out is when you ignore your
baby's
cry for he
cry for help.
The Gentle Sleep Coach ® approach is a gentler alternative
for families who emotionally or philosophically resist
letting their
babies cry it out alone.
Letting your
baby cry becomes an issue is when you ignore the
cry for help and
let your
baby continue to
cry even after you have had a chance to recognize / analyze it.
You and your
baby will benefit greatly if you can
let her
cry, then calm herself down so she can look at her mobile or play with her other toys
for a bit.
* Your experiences with sleeping through the night, naps, night feedings, your feeling regarding
letting your
baby cry... Of course you can use aliases
for your child / children's names if you don't want them to appear online.
I'm struggling right now with what to do - I was quite happy to
let my 4 month old suck himself to sleep and would happily
let him come into our bed, he always sleeps better there & I don't believe in «training»
babies to fit in with our schedules... However, from being a «good sleeper» he's now nearly 5 months and his sleep has deteriorated to a 2 or 3 hr stretch, then he's up every 45mins / 1 hr or so throughout the night - not fully awake but
crying for a feed to get back to sleep.
I know there are many proponents of simply
letting the
babies cry until they stop, either to allow some rest
for the parent or to avoid «spoiling» the
baby.
The Ferber method is just one, where you go in to quietly and quickly comfort the
baby at progressively longer intervals (
for example 1 minute, 3 minutes, 5 minutes, then later on to 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes), which is different from just
letting a
baby «
cry themselves to sleep».
Then it's time to find someone else to calm your
baby or
for you to
let the
baby cry it out.
Unfortunately some parents
let there 6 week old
babies cry for hours and that is not ok in my book.
I have heard that Babywise can lead to poor nutrition in
babies b / c it advocates feeding on a rigid schedule and
letting even the tiniest
babies cry for a long period of time.
How can anyone seriously
let their 4 month old
cry for over an hour?!?!
Babies are not meant to be left alone like that, and they are
crying for a reason!