It's kind of
like breastfeeding in public: some people are perfectly comfortable whipping the boob out proudly for all to see, and some are more comfortable if they use a cover.
If you don't
like breastfeeding in public, you're not a bad feminist.
However, I didn't
like breastfeeding in public.
Something
like breastfeeding in public, flying alone with your baby, or leaving a teenaged babysitter in charge for the first time.
I'd also like to add something else to that conversation, and that's that if you don't
like breastfeeding in public or feel uncomfortable doing it at the DMV or doctor's office or in an Olive Garden, that's okay too.
You also forgot to warn them that you may do terrible things
like breastfeed in public and co-sleep!
Not exact matches
It really IS everyone else's problem if they don't
like seeing a flash of flesh
in public during a
breastfeeding.
While I love that it helps to normalize
breastfeeding in the
public eye, I also feel
like it almost sets an unattainable standard if that is the bar we are advertising as acceptable.
And frankly, just
like Heather once confessed to being embarrassed about being embarrassed about
public breastfeeding, some of these events are so trivial, it's clear a little resilience is
in order.
I'm still
breastfeeding for my girls and as far as nursing
in public is concerned I mean I had my babies
like boom boom boom right, so there wasn't a lot of getting out of the house.
And frankly, just
like Heather once confessed to being embarrassed about being embarrassed about
public breastfeeding, some of these events are so trivial, it's clear a little resilience is
in -LSB-...]
I know I'm personally one of those moms that I'm a little more private when I am
breastfeeding in public, I do prefer covers and things
like that and I usually try to keep to myself, so I'm putting myself mentally
in Mia's position.
-LSB-...] you don't
like a woman practicing her legal and protected right to
breastfeed in public, put a blanket over your own damn -LSB-...]
Maybe you could
breastfeed in public, share your
breastfeeding story on our site (
like many mothers already have), wear clothing that promotes
breastfeeding, talk about it to women who are currently pregnant or attend
breastfeeding support groups to help
breastfeeding mums who are finding it difficult.
Just going out
in public it's not uncommon to see several
breastfeeding and baby - wearing moms & dads, so it's easy to meet
like - minded parents, even when we're not at an API meeting!
I'd
like to see more women standing up to this and
breastfeeding in public.
However, I was always intending to combination feed then give up
breastfeeding and switch to formula after a few months as I wanted some freedom.It was my choice to
breastfeed, to give up having drinks, to do the night feeds, to get my breasts out
in public and everything else you mention above (I didn't watch what I ate, if I listened to the HV about giving up dairy and greens and everything else, then I would have felt
like crap) I made that decision and by the sounds of it so did you.
Like I need to wean my child at a certain age or I need to cover when
breastfeeding in public.
I've been
breastfeeding my baby for what feels
like my entire life now, and
in general I've actually had pretty good luck with
breastfeeding in public.
SUNNY GAULT: Yeah, I mean, I think that's, you know, the whole point with the whole baby - friendly initiative is, you know, when moms come
in to a hospital, you really don't know their background, you don't know, you know, did their mom
breastfeed, you know, have they, you know, have they ever seen someone nursing
in public,
like you don't know where they start off.
So she was out
in public with her eight week old son and it says that she was at a cafe and she happened to be
breastfeeding her baby and it says an elderly women,
in not sure if it actually lists her name or sorry her age, but anyway this elderly women comes up to her and honestly the mom was
like «oh no, she's going to tell me to cover up, she's going to be
like, be mean about this or you know or how dare I be, you know doing this
in public kind of thing» and the only thing the elderly wanted to do was to help the mom be able to eat.
Don't
like if a mother
breastfeeds in public?
I personally
like to cover up when
breastfeeding in public.
My biggest takeaway from the experience of
breastfeeding in public was that having conventions for the act is putting pressure on moms
like me to perform
in a certain way so that we're collectively inconspicuous.
While some of the country seems to be coming around, and campaigns
like #freethenipple are becoming increasingly common, women who
breastfeed in public are still sometimes looked down upon.
Still,
like many aspects of parenthood,
breastfeeding took some getting used to, and some experience on my end, before it was even remotely comfortable for me to do
in public.
The whole «
breastfeeding IN PUBLIC» hoo haa did not happen
like it does today.
My next thought was that I couldn't wear a cute little sundress
like that and
breastfeed because unless the dress was really, really long, I couldn't be lady -
like and
breastfeed in public.
Yet, if someone says «I have nothing against
breastfeeding, I just don't
like it when women
breastfeed in public», everyone loses their minds...
As much as they claim to be victimised for
public breastfeeding, FFing parents are frequently compared to child abusers, told that they are feeding their babies poison, that they don't deserve to have children and shown sensationalist «infographics»
like the ones a few posts back which stated that formula fed babies are x times more likely to die within the first year of life without even accounting for the numerous confounding factors that would cause those numbers to be elevated
in the first place.
You know, I nursed my kids, and I think nursing is a good thing
in general and that people should be free to do it
in public, etc. but I have to say that I sincerely hated, as a
breastfeeding mother, when people
like you would do nutty stuff
like that.
Bah, I've
breastfeed in public in three different countries (including the US), never used a cover, and only once I have encountered anything vaguely
like disapproval (and since they were a couple of teenage girls I couldn't have given a shit what they thought).
I
breastfed my son for 17 months,
in public when he happened to be hungry
in public, never covered up because it always seemed
like too much trouble.
Moms who exclusively
breastfeed feel targeted when out
in public nursing their babies, while moms who formula feed feel
like they're getting the stink - eye for prepping a bottle.
I feel
like I'm comfortable enough now (finally; it wasn't always the case) that I wouldn't be intimidated and I feel
like I could keep calm and help educate the person about
breastfeeding and nursing
in public.
She
likes to chat about it, dares you to say anything to her about nursing
in public and is a walking PSA for all things
breastfeeding.
His point of contention is that while he is fine with uncovered
breastfeeding in public he thinks it's a double standard that it is not acceptable for men to have a look (more
like a good ling stare) at the breasts while it is going on.
I'm not saying that national
breastfeeding month isn't a good thing, but as someone who is grouped with whites I don't have to fight tooth and nail for the same level of acceptance
like «minorities» do when I choose to nurse a 2.5 year old
in public.
And so it's such a great way of helping these moms with younger babies get over their fears because they see all these other women
breastfeeding in public and it's no big deal so I just think you know power and numbers to
like it definitely helps you overcome your fear if you're not the only one doing it.
She had said that I really helped her had the confidence to nurse
in public because I always look
like it was no big deal and I had shared something at one point
in about being nervous
in a situation but you know I still
breastfed my son but
in the back on my mind I'm going those people over there might not really
like what's about to happen and you know I mean I still did it and it was funny.
It's really great to have them supporting us and, but I am a part of this broader culture that we live
in our community and so I do feel
like the whole thing I mentioned about kind of not really
liking to
breastfeed in public and Rose you mentioned how you don't tell people often how you
breastfeed until four and it kind of makes me sad because I think you know, if everyone else
in the world is doing it until 4, maybe everyone else here is doing until 4 and we just, we are all too ashamed or maybe we would kind of be, if I would be a little more brave about it, I would find a different circle of people that I am not so different from.
And so with a group it
like singlizes everything about this
breastfeeding movement and you know people being happy and proud and empowered and support each other, taking a stand and sort of taking it to the streets you know I mean this is where I get a little very passionate about
breastfeeding in public because of the overall societal changes and impact it makes.
To ensure less embarrassment
in public, and just to teach your
breastfeeding toddler manners, you might consider teaching them to either sign and ask for nursing, or ask them to use an appropriate term
like «milk, please», «Nursey» or others.
Sometimes when new moms are getting the hang of
breastfeeding or would just
like some extra coverage while out
in public a nursing cover is a necessity.
These photographs were taken by the amazing Angela Carlyle The Perfect Push did this
in an effort to #normalizebreastfeeding and start an honest conversation about hot - topics such as nursing
in public, and those not often discussed,
like extended
breastfeeding and tandem nursing.
And it sounds
like just
in other cultures where they are
breastfeeding in public all the time and they are doing extended
breastfeeding and
breastfeeding is not as sexualized as it is
in the West and that's kind of really where we need to go with this.
That might be the first place I
breastfeed in public as we asked questions, I was sitting there waiting and
like I don't know why, though they must be ready to go [laughs] and so am sitting there and I had my baby and was he probably 5 weeks old and
in my head I was
like saying, «I should have been here sooner, I should have been here sooner», [laughs] which is irrelevant but that what's goes through your head and then I was
like I guess I just do it and it was the meanest thing because I'm sitting on the floor with my baby and I didn't have to use the cover and I was just so «Oh, you just have to do it
like in a room full of women» and everybody is
in just as uncomfortable and everybody is trying to make this dance work and trying to get a rhythm and they needed this thing to be able to do and I would imagine for me it was a good transition to being
in publicand not to worry about the cover but also for women
like ok, this is your group for example.
Emma do you think, I mean, I've read where
like Scandinavian countries where extended
breastfeeding and
breastfeeding in public is just the norm, that they..., that they must have a different perspective on the breast then because our breasts list taboo
in their cultures and is this why we have such a significant difference compared to countries who are more comfortable
breastfeeding in public and extended
breastfeeding?
So that you can
breastfeed anywhere you need to and whenever you need to and sometimes
like I mentionedit, it's more important the baby is not crying
in public than your boob showing.
If things
like breastfeeding on - cue,
in public, and full - term, co-sleeping and night nursing, compassionate communication with respectful collaboration and natural consequences, and interest - led and experiential learning sound
like your jam, then you've found your guide.