There's nothing quite
like seeing your midwife write, «stopped breastfeeding due to lactation failure» on your chart.
Not exact matches
Personally, when I
saw my
midwife for my prenatal care I felt
like a real person, rather than just a number (which is how I felt at one OB's practice, that I left I might add).
Our
midwife was puzzled and touched and told us that she had never
seen anything
like us before.
See, we do not have the opportunity to sue here
like you do, because the hospital /
midwife almost always wins.
I've
seen adverts and posters
like that all over the place, from Pediatrician / OBGYN / Nurse -
Midwife offices to parenting magazines to pro-breastfeeding websites.
Perhaps a debrief for every birth would be helpful — it could be part of the postnatal
midwife visits — I would have
liked to have
seen my UK labour notes (got given a copy for free in NZ).
By sharing stories
like this one, people can start to
see that my experiences as a
midwife were far from unique.
And shows how either untruthful they are (since if they read through them, they would understand that the studies aren't about
midwives like them) or stupid (didn't read them at all, but
liked what they
saw and think it makes them look better)
And none of those things even come close to what it must feel
like if you are home with your laboring wife, and an incompetent
midwife and suddenly the
midwife starts cursing and freaking out, and you can
see from where you are standing something is wrong, the baby's feet are coming first, and too much blood, and your wife is screaming in agony and you can't remember how to dial 911.....
A local OB / Gyn I know has taken matters into her own hands and reached out to the local direct entry
midwives, offering to meet with them and discuss their practices, when they would
like to
see mothers transferred, and mothers that should be excluded from homebirth.
Getting back to birth, though, what I would
like to
see is more birth centers, more
midwives like the one in the NPR story, and less of both the «classic» hospital birthing experience and also less of NCB madness
like «power birthing» (shudder) that I just this morning learned about from a comment on this blog.
Only one of the
midwives we
saw actually seemed
like she was acting in my partner's and my newborn son's interests.
It had its calm parts and its fearful parts and its dramatic parts —
like when the baby's head was out and he began kicking his body visibly inside me, trying to work his way out, something my
midwife had never
seen in her 35 years of practice.
Midwifery advocates often cite what they
see as the biggest irony of anti-
midwife laws
like the one in Missouri: that a good Samaritan who helps a woman deliver her baby on the side of a road or in a taxi cab is not subject to prosecution, but that a trained
midwife who helps a woman carefully plan her out - of - hospital birth is.
You will
see how there are lots of women who just
like you thought they were getting the greatest care only to then lose a baby and then find out just how awful their
midwife actually was.
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Seeing as how so many people (
midwives and homebirth women alike... previously, me included) don't
like to give homebirth a bad name... I am thinking a lot of bad births weren't turned into MANA (probably mine, included!).
Your doctor or
midwife can recommend interventions that really help, such as
seeing a therapist who works with lots of moms
like you or taking an antidepressant that's safe when nursing.
And that's one of the things that I think, a point that needs belaboring with more people is that a lot what we
see, I mean, a huge proponent of going back to basics in terms of childbirth, moving more towards with low risk or no risk pregnancies, more home birth and more
midwives and things
like that, going back to the way things used to be done before a lot of interventions.
And if Laplanders had never
seen the
likes of these warmongering foreigners, those foreigners never met up with a Laplander
midwife.