When things are getting tense or heated, your partner is most
likely feeling unloved or unappreciated.
Not exact matches
In other words, you
likely feel safe when your partner is loving, and unsafe when he or she is being
unloving.
This can have a devastating effect on a child, who will
likely feel abandoned,
unloved, rejected, and may also
feel it is somehow their own fault, too.
With a «you» and «me» approach, she might say «you never cuddle me or tell me I'm special» which is
likely to
feel like a criticism to her partner who may then get defensive and respond with «there's always something wrong with me» which results in him pulling away and her
feeling even more
unloved.